00:00:00 Welcome to tonight's Saturday night special episode 43 where I talk about why successful people seek out coaches. I'm Paul sawn from Carra. I challenge you to discover your true identity and calling so you can be empowered to live everyday to the fullest. One way to be inspired to do that is to listen to this, the inspired stewardship podcast with my friend Scott Mader.
00:00:33 So why does successful people seek out coaches? They look at themselves and they recognize that they're part of the problem and they take ownership of that and decide they want to make a change, but they can't do it alone. They've been trying and trying and trying, but it just doesn't work or they want to make that move faster and with more clarity than they can do alone.
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00:01:28 Saturday night special I talk with you about why successful people seek out coaches. What is a coach comes to having one for your personal time for your personal finances and what I do as a stewardship coach. No one area that a lot of folks need some help with is around the area of productivity. Getting not just more things done, but actually getting the right things done can be really,
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00:02:54 slash launch let's talk a bit about coaching and why successful people actually look for opportunities for coaching. First, let me kind of back up a little bit. Let's talk about what coaching really is. You know, I use a definition and it's a little different than some other people, but I'll, I'll cover it here. Where I think about coaching and consulting and all of these different things is sort of on a continuum align let's say,
00:03:29 and all the way at one end is what I would call pure consulting and all the way at the other end is what I would call pure coaching. And in between the two, there's a lot of different little areas or cells or approaches that you'll see different people take. The interesting thing is that a lot of times everything along that continuum, all the way from the consulting end to the coaching end will be called coaching.
00:03:57 So the truth is if you're seeking out a coach, you need to ask them how they define it, what their approach is, and it's going to have different approaches and different techniques depending on the kind of coaching that you're looking for. Let me give you an example here. So consulting in my mind is when you have a specific solution for a specific problem,
00:04:22 if you're looking for somebody to increase your social media engagement, get more people commenting and acting on your social media, then you want to look for a consultant who specializes in social media engagement and they'll have their own set of techniques and processes. They'll have something that they'll have you do and that they'll do, and at the end of it you can actually say,
00:04:48 yes, social media engagement has increased or it has not, and you've kind of hired an expert that is, there's nothing wrong with this by the way. It's not that consulting is bad and coaching is good, it's that's a particular approach and it works well on things where there is a very measurable outcome that works well on things where there's a very specific and defined problem and it works well on things where there is a specific defined process that can be used,
00:05:24 but see there's other things that happen in our lives. There's other concerns, there's other problems, there's other discussions. If for instance, you are looking for something that doesn't necessarily have a ready made solution, there is a one size fits all solution or there isn't a defined process. Yes, there could be techniques, there could be different lessons or activities that you do,
00:05:50 but the truth is they probably need to be tailored somewhat for just who you are and how you're wired. Then you're going to want to move away from that pure consulting and down the continuum towards pure coaching. So let's talk about what the other end looks like. Pure coaching. This is the coaching model that I see used with a lot of success, where the goal of the coaching model is not to tell you what to do,
00:06:18 but instead to draw out of you the information and the solutions that are within you to ask you questions, to challenge your thinking, to help you and hold you accountable to implementation, but to not actually do it for you and to not really propose specific solutions for you even, but rather to ask questions that challenge your thinking and move you out of complacency out of being stuck and help you make a change.
00:06:55 Oftentimes you will hear about life coaching or career coaching as being this sort of pure coaching technique. You know, my coach asked me great questions and again, this isn't a good thing or a bad thing. It has its place. It has its purpose as a successful person. If you recognize that you're not looking for a readymade solution, you're not looking for a solution off the shelf,
00:07:19 you're not looking for others to change. You're not looking for others to implement the work and do the hard work, but rather you're stuck. And the solution might lie inside of you might lie outside of you, but you're just not getting there by yourself. You're not able to to wrap your head around the problem, you need some degree of accountability. You need somebody to push you and challenge your thinking.
00:07:45 Then pure coaching is often what you want and then sometimes there's activities where it falls between these two extremes. An example is financial coaching and the reason why I use that as an example is if all you did was pure coaching with financial coaching, people will make progress. They'll make tremendous progress, but oftentimes they also need some consulting type things. They need the injection of some specific tools or techniques that are tailored for them,
00:08:23 but that helps them move the needle. They need some head knowledge as well as some heart knowledge. And so you end up having to do kind of a bounce between the two. And often whenever I'm doing this, I'll tell people I'm moving out of the coaching mode right now. This is more of a consulting role. I'm going to inject a tool or a technique into your life.
00:08:44 And so when I'm at a financial coach, I, I wear both hats. I do pure coaching and I do coaching. That is more directive. It works to help move people quicker than they would before because there is some tools and September techniques that they can apply that yes, they may have to be tailored to them but at the end of the day,
00:09:08 the concept, for instance, a budget is the same concept. How you do it may be different, but what it is is the same and usually here's the funny thing, the head knowledge part, the consulting part tends to be a much lower percentage of the time. Then the questioning and the heart knowledge part. See a lot of times the real valuable thing is actually helping the person draw solutions out of themselves.
00:09:39 Helping them have accountability around the idea that I, if I keep doing what I've been doing, I'm going to keep getting what I've been getting. If I don't make a change and take control of my life, then I'm going to keep being stuck right here where I am. It's helping people have that. I've had it moment, but then actually make positive movements in a good direction and guess who gets to define what good is in that sentence?
00:10:09 The client, not the coach. In other words, whenever I'm looking and working with someone's budget, it's not up to me to tell him, Hey, you should cut cable. My job is to help them see the reality of their situation and ask them challenging questions. Is this expense moving you towards your goals? Is it an alignment with your values?
00:10:29 And if the answer is yes, then keep it in the budget. But if the answer is no, then cut it out and it's a personal decision. It's not about the actual money. It's not about the budget, it's about the why. It's about the priorities. It's about your values. It's around how you think. And as a stewardship coach,
00:10:51 that's what I do. I help people get good thinking specifically around three areas. I'm going to take a look at your time. How are you using your time? Are you getting the things done that you want to get done? Are you being as productive as you want to be? Are you looking up frustrated every day? Then we've got tools and techniques that can help you get that in alignment.
00:11:18 And then I look at your treasures, your finances. Again, same thing. Is your money in alignment with your values? Are you looking up at the end of the year and going, I don't know where my money went. I have no clue what happened and I am waking way too much money to be this broke. Then financial coaching is a good thing.
00:11:39 And by the way, these two areas oftentimes get connected for my clients and we do a little of both. And then the third area is talent. I like to look at how people are wired and help them understand how they communicate others, how they communicate with themselves, what their self talk is, what their language and thinking is, and help them reprogram that so that they began to do things in a way that is much more effective.
00:12:09 So why does successful people seek out coaches? They look at themselves and they recognize that they're part of the problem and they take ownership of that and decide they want to make a change, but they can't do it alone. They've been trying and trying and trying, but it just doesn't work or they want to make that move faster and with more clarity than they can do alone.
00:12:34 Then they'll seek out a coach. They'll make that change and they'll apply this logic to themselves so that they can really take control of their life and do what they always wanted to do, what they're called to do. This is what I do as a stewardship coach and I hope that these podcast or if you come to me for coaching that we can work together to help you master your time,
00:13:03 master your talent, master your treasures, and do what you are called to do. Thanks for listening. Thanks so much for listening to the inspired stewardship podcast. As a subscriber and listener, we challenge you to not just sit back and passively listen, but act on what you've heard and find a way to live your calling. If you enjoy this episode,
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