Episode 994: Find a Big Why

[00:00:00] Scott Maderer: Thanks for joining me on episode 994 of the inspired stewardship podcast.

[00:00:08] Shelly Lombard: I'm Shelly Lombard, founder of Millie money. Learning how to invest. We'll give you options for your future and to help others get inspired. One way to do that is to listen to this podcast. Inspired stewardship with my friend, Scott.

[00:00:24] Scott Maderer: You want to know if you have a goal or a Y. If you have something in mind and at the end of the day, you're able to say, yes, I have achieved this. Yes, it is finished. It is done. That is a goal, but when it's the emotion behind it, when it can apply to more than one goal, Welcome and thank you for joining us on the inspired stewardship podcast.

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[00:01:12] and today's episode about impacting the world through stewarding your talent. I talk with you about why finding a big enough, why is so important? I talk about what we often think of is a big, why is it really a big why? But instead it's a goal. And I share how to know if you have a Y or if you have a goal, you've heard me talk about developing your team.

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[00:02:25] So many of them come and their initial feedback, what they want to do is something like I want to get out of debt, or I want to be able to spend more time. On work without feeling like I've overwhelmed, or I want to get control of my inbox, or I feel like I never know what to do next. And I'm always losing track of things and I need to figure out a way and a system to keep on top of it.

[00:02:53] I need to know where my money's going because I make too much money to feel this broke all the time. And the joke [00:03:00] that I use is the truth is that people come to me for help on productivity and they come to me for help on money. But in the truth is the only thing I really coach on is talent because how you handle your time and how you handle your money is really all about how you handle yourself.

[00:03:19] And as part of that, you've got to think about what is your reason for making change and really at the end of the day, most of the time people suddenly decide they want to make change either because there's some sort of stressor, some sort of pain, some sort of emotional event that causes them to want to avoid it.

[00:03:39] It's gotten bad enough that the pain of the same. Outweighs the pain of the change, or they see that happening somewhere else. And that causes the emotional driver to make the change. Maybe something happens to your parents or a close friend, or you [00:04:00] start seeing layoffs. And now you're worried that you may get laid off or someone close to you goes through a health.

[00:04:07] And those are reasons that drive us towards change. But the funny thing is those most start the process, but they don't generally last long enough to make the change stick. You have to have a moment and a reason that you can connect to emotion. But all too often, instead we often set goals and don't get me wrong.

[00:04:31] Goals are important. I'm big on setting goals, but a goal is not a why a goal is a destination. A goal is about, I want to achieve this moment or this step or this thing, getting out of debt is a goal, but why do you want to get out of this? Getting more productive is a goal, but why do you want to get more productive?

[00:04:58] Doing these [00:05:00] things are goals. Not wise. You have to have a big enough why to make the change stick. So what then is a, why? It's the emotional reason behind the goal? Why do you want to get out of. Usually the first answer that people will give is the debt stresses me out. I want to have more disposable income.

[00:05:25] And I feel like I'm sending all of my money to the credit card company and I don't have enough money to do other things that I want to. But even that's not a really big why do you want more disposable income? Why do you want to not be stressed out about paying the credit cards? Because I actually want to have the freedom to be able to not feel like I have to work over time so that I can spend more time with my family.

[00:05:51] Yeah, but why do you even want to do that? What's the reason behind that, the emotional connection right now, I feel like my kids are growing up and I'm not able to [00:06:00] spend time with them and they're going to grow up and never know me. And that happened to me, with my parents. And I don't want that to happen to my kid.

[00:06:08] I want their life to be different and I want my life to be different. Now we're getting there. What's your really big why? And usually you have to go three or four or five or six or seven levels deep before you find it because it's not the surface. It's not just, it's not even a superficial answer.

[00:06:35] I often tell people that my why is freedom, but there's more to it than that. My, why is about the freedom to choose my, why is about working? Because I want to work, not because I have to work. My, why is about having the ability to say tomorrow I'm closed and I'm going to go spend time with my family.

[00:06:54] It's about having the freedom to choose what I do to [00:07:00] something. And I'm not perfectly free. Obviously we all have constraints, but the more I move in that direction, the happier I am, because it gives me the ability to connect with my family. It gives me the ability to save for my future. It gives me the ability to do things that mean something.

[00:07:21] You want to know if you have a goal or a Y if you have something in mind and at the end of the day, you're able to say yes, I have achieved this. Yes, it is finished. It is done. That is a goal, but when it's the emotion behind it, when it can apply to more than one goal, when, why you do this thing and the next thing, and the thing after that, and you achieve this level and the next phase and the next phase and the next.

[00:07:53] That same deep, emotional reason applies, but it might change. That's fine. It's [00:08:00] okay if it changes, but there's an emotional reason that lasts beyond. Yes, it is done. Yes, it is finished. Yes, it is completed. That's going to be your why. So when it comes to setting goals, what is your, why, what is your reason?

[00:08:17] What will drive you to do it? Even when it's hard? That's what you have to find. Thanks for listening.

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