Episode 829 Confidence versus Arrogance
[00:00:00] Scott Maderer: [00:00:00] Thanks for joining me on episode 829 of the inspired stewardship podcast,
[00:00:07]Wendy Gentry: [00:00:07] Gentry from Baker university. I encourage you to live your life from the inside out. And one way to be inspired to do that is to listen to this. The inspired stewardship podcast with my friend, Scott Maderer .
[00:00:21] Scott Maderer: [00:00:21] what's interesting is as you begin to recognize it developed confidence instead of arrogance, you will discover that is attractive and influential building. For other people. People are loved being around confident people hate. Being around arrogant people are attracted to competence and it allows you to influence others to do things welcome.
[00:00:47] And thank you for joining us on the inspired stewardship podcasts. If you truly desire to become the person who God wants you to be, then you must learn to use your time, your talent and your treasures. For your [00:01:00] true calling in the inspired stewardship podcast, go learn to invest in yourself, invest in others and develop your influence so that you can impact the world.
[00:01:12]In today's episode about developing your influence through stewarding your talent. I talk with you about the difference between confidence and arrogance. I share eight tips on how to reduce that feeling of arrogance. And I also share why this really matters for your influence. You've heard me talk about developing your talent and what are the best ways to do that is through books.
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[00:02:04] That's inspired stewardship.com/audible to get your free trial and listen to great books the same way you're listening to this podcast, confidence and arrogance. We often confuse these two things because they are both. They are both something that we have to identify about how we feel about our abilities, but the difference is there's a difference between them two, because confidence is that faith that you have in someone, something, yourself, your abilities it's confidence is understanding and believing that you're good at something.
[00:02:47] Arrogance on the other hand is that same belief, but then taken to an exaggerated level. It makes you the most important or the most skillful or better than you [00:03:00] really are. Now the truth is belief in your abilities does lead to confidence and being confident about things is a good thing. Confidence.
[00:03:10] Doesn't lead you to be driven, to show your knowledge or to show your competence. Obviously you still feel good. Whenever someone points out that you're good at something, but you're not driven by that feeling. You're not going out to show everyone how good you are at something. You use your talents and you use them well, and you succeed because of that.
[00:03:33] But you also understand your weaknesses and that you're not good at everything. But arrogance, that exaggerated belief in your ability is when you see that you tend to look down on other people, you tend to see that your abilities are better than everyone. Else's no matter what. And being right, being the smartest, being the best, being the strongest, [00:04:00] being whatever becomes your driving force and you have to push other people down so that you can be built up.
[00:04:09] Arrogance often comes out of insecurity. It often comes out of fear or hidden things and belief that you really aren't as good as you think you are. When you think about that, how do you begin to develop confidence instead of arrogance? Or one thing is be sincere, be truthful. You've heard that expression fake it till you make it.
[00:04:37] It's not really true instead. If you pose as having abilities, imposes confidence, then that is going to come across as arrogance because it's not real. And you know that instead, just be yourself, be sincere, be truthful, know your own strengths, but also know your own [00:05:00] weaknesses, knowing how for every strength you have, there has to be corresponding weaknesses.
[00:05:06] Nobody is great at everything. And as you do that, you'll develop humility and out of humility, you recognize that you can let other people shine. You can let other people do things well, and that does it less than you at all, that you can be okay. Even if others are shining. And as you do that, you can come about by doing this more by beginning to listen more, let other people have the opportunity to shine.
[00:05:40] Talk less, listen more, be okay with being wrong. Be okay with not being the best person in the room. Boom. And be okay with being vulnerable. Be okay with being seen. For who you really are worth warts and all strengths and weaknesses, [00:06:00] both be okay with being seen for being good, but not having to be the best at whatever it is.
[00:06:10] Dare to be transparent and show people who you are, be mindful of. What's going on. The practice, understanding yourself, your emotional States, understanding where your actions are coming for from what's driving you, because as you become aware of that, it allows you to step back from being the person that has to be the best in the room.
[00:06:39] What's interesting is as you begin to recognize and develop confidence, instead of arrogance, you will discover that is attractive and influential building. For other people. People are love being around confident people hate being around arrogant people. People are attracted to [00:07:00] confidence.
[00:07:01] And it allows you to influence others to do things that are better for them because out of your confidence, they began to lessen their own feelings of competition. And you begin to be able to work beside and with people instead of against people. It stops being necessary to quote, pull people along and you just are able to show them through your own actions that this is the way to be.
[00:07:29] It's funny, but it all fits together. And at the end of the day, as you do that, you will begin to grow in confidence more and more. And out of that confidence will come the real true ability to do what you are meant to do and to have others see that for the gift that it is. Thanks for listening.
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