Episode 826 Develop Your Influence - Interview with Stacy Henry – Part 3
[00:00:00] Scott Maderer: [00:00:00] Thanks for joining us on episode 826 of the inspired stewardship podcast.
[00:00:09] Stacy Henry: [00:00:09] I'm Stacy Henry owner and coach at center branch, where we grow great leaders. I challenge you to invest in yourself, invest in others, develop your influence and impact the world by using your time, your talent and your treasures to live out your colleagues.
[00:00:29] Having the ability to deal well with change is key. And one way to be inspired to do this is to listen to this, the inspired stewardship podcast with my friend, Scott Mader,
[00:00:41]really when we know where we're at and we know how strongly or how deeply we're rooted in our values. It gives us almost a shift in perspective to be open to others because we're not in this like [00:01:00] fight or protection type of mode when we're truly rooted in our value.
[00:01:07] Scott Maderer: [00:01:07] Thank you for joining us on the inspired stewardship podcasts.
[00:01:11] If you truly desire to become the person who God wants you to be, then you must learn to use your time, your talent and your treasures for your true calling in the inspired stewardship podcast. We'll learn to invest in yourself, invest in others and develop your influence so that you can impact the work.
[00:01:32]In today's interview with Stacy Henry from central branch. I asked Stacy to share with you her definition of leadership. Stacy also shares why the value of listening is so valuable for influence. And I also asked Stacy to share her definition of stewardship and give you her top public speaking tips.
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[00:02:41] Stacy Henry is the owner and founder of center branch, a people centered leadership business dedicated to helping both companies and individuals perform to their highest potential with services that include keynote speaking and workshop, facilitation, women's development and leadership and executive coaching center branch [00:03:00] enables people to be the, their best so that they and the companies they work for may flourish.
[00:03:05] Stacy brings 25 years of experience to center branch from a variety of global industries as an executive coach and HR business partner for C suite leaders in 2020, Stacy worked directly with the chief financial officer, chief communications officer and the head of strategic development at Collins aerospace.
[00:03:23] When it merged with Raytheon technologies prior to founding center branch, she was the head HR partner for the central functions at Collins aerospace, a Raytheon technologies company. She's also the author of get rooted, helping you identify values so you can understand your roots and using that foundation deal better with change.
[00:03:45] So for the last couple of weeks, we've been throwing a word or around, and I like to ask people to actually define it just because I've heard different answers over the years. And that, that is this term of leadership. When you think about developing your [00:04:00] influence leaders, leadership, this is something that comes up.
[00:04:03] So how has, what's your specific definition for that word leadership?
[00:04:07]Stacy Henry: [00:04:07] It's a great question. And I've alluded to this answer a couple of times over, over our last two conversations. And I fundamentally, I'm going to start by my disagreement that a leader is a title. So I believe leadership is not a title and every single person.
[00:04:30] Doesn't matter if you have a job, don't have a job. Doesn't matter if you're a farmer or a CEO, every individual is a leader and it starts with leading self. And I look at leadership in three levels. It's leader of self. So how am I leading myself? What am I again, going back to some of our previous conversations, what am I rooted in and how am I showing up then?
[00:04:56] There's leader of others. This [00:05:00] doesn't mean you're managing, being a leader of others and being a manager are two very different things. In my world. A manager is somebody who has responsibility over other people, a leader of others in baby's world is somebody who has influence with groups of people. And they may not report to you.
[00:05:21] They may not be in the same circle, but there's something that you're doing or saying. And there's something that you're exhibiting that people are paying attention to and they want to listen to, and you are able to influence now that could be positively or not. That's a whole nother conversation.
[00:05:39]And then beyond that, there are leaders of organizations and leaders of organizations. Austin, have reporting chains, but they are embodying the leader of self and the leader of others and doing that on a macro scale and no sense is it ever tied to a [00:06:00] title and it's in all senses, it's tied to how we're showing up as ourselves and how we're influencing others.
[00:06:09] Scott Maderer: [00:06:09] So similar question obviously the name of this podcast is inspired. Stewardship. Stewardship is something that's important to me. It's one of the reasons your book resonated with me. I think it actually has, changed some words and it's a stewardship book. Really. So how do you define that word stewardship?
[00:06:25]And how would you relate it to the concepts that you put forward? You didn't get rid of it. You
[00:06:30] Stacy Henry: [00:06:30] want to think about. The dictionary.com definition, if you will, of stewardship, I think about the responsibility of managing or supervising something that somebody has given you or assets of great importance.
[00:06:49]That's how I would define it. I don't know if dictionary.com defines it as that. And so when I think about stewardship, as it relates to getting rooted, I [00:07:00] believe that our values and what we're rooted in are often our gifts and those gifts come from God and it's our responsibility to care for and protect those gifts that were said differently, protect those assets.
[00:07:19] And so it's a key responsibility for us to a know what they are. So if we go back to our very first conversation, For us to be able to define what are those roots, what are we rooted in? Is it the gifts that I've been given? And if not, okay, now that's data. I can then begin to chip that and steward going forward.
[00:07:44] So if I haven't been a good steward of my gifts or my assets or my roots, which I believe are God-given. It doesn't mean I can't be in the future. I can shift that. And that's really the whole premise of the book that [00:08:00] rooted is that we have a choice in that we're given this beautiful root system. How do we nurture it and take care of it to grow ourselves and ultimately to grow others.
[00:08:10] Scott Maderer: [00:08:11] In today's world. I think, we've been talking a lot about understanding our own values, understanding our own core roots. But I think part of that also when it comes to influencing others and we talked a little bit about this last week is learning to listen to others or need to influence others learning to.
[00:08:29] Interact with others in a positive way. So how can understanding our values help us really listen to others, especially like when maybe they come from a different root system or have a different center branch than us.
[00:08:46] Stacy Henry: [00:08:46] It's a very good question. And you as we had talked about it, It's really when we know where we're at and we know how strongly or how [00:09:00] deeply we're rooted in our values.
[00:09:04] It gives us almost a shift in perspective to be open to others because we're not in this like fight or protection type of mode when we're truly rooted in our values. I don't have to defend that. And it opens me up to really be able to understand other people. And when I think about how knowing that helps us to really listen, it allows us to listen non-judgmentally and without bias, it doesn't mean necessarily that we'll agree and that's okay.
[00:09:46] Absolutely. Okay. We can have a conversation. I can listen to another person's perspective. I can take in their story or whatever data it is, and have [00:10:00] a true appreciation and respect for what they. Are rooted in. And so the influence really then move from me to influencing. Okay. I'm respecting, I'm understanding and I'm not judging other people that I think really allows us to broaden our perspective in the sense of we're influencing them to, or they're going out to others.
[00:10:29] I know it was a very long way for me to say, it's, non-judgemental receiving of information.
[00:10:35]Scott Maderer: [00:10:35] And I think that, last week you talked a little bit about working with the ministry organization and how, they did the group session and found out wait, we don't all have the same core values, a hundred percent in common.
[00:10:48]There's some things in common and there's other things that are different. But out of that, they could unify around. But as an organization, here's what we agree we stand for. And that comes out of that [00:11:00] nonjudgmental listening, doesn't it?
[00:11:02] Stacy Henry: [00:11:02] It, it does. And it's also an act in really openly listening and not defending.
[00:11:11] And what I witnessed happened was a little bit of. Some bad behavior in the offset. And so people did feel like they had to defend either their personal roots or they wanted their roots to really be reflected in the group. And when that was called out. And I think that this is an important part.
[00:11:32] So when somebody calls that out in a polite and a non-threatening way, you're able to step back and say, Oh, okay, I can see how it doesn't have to be exactly this, but for the greater good, it can be why. And every single individual had a piece of that. And so there was influence from every single individual, but there was also some give and take because not everybody [00:12:00] got exactly what they wanted.
[00:12:01]Scott Maderer: [00:12:01] So I know one of the things that you've had an opportunity to do despite the fact that you're a recovering perfectionist control, freak, introvert. I think I got that some public speaking and activities like that. So thinking about, and I'm not sure that this relates to get rooted, but it also might how can we use that kind of Avenue?
[00:12:22]When it comes to building our influence and what can we take take away from that when it comes to doing public speaking?
[00:12:30] Stacy Henry: [00:12:30] Yeah. So I'll start by saying public speaking and I have this. Complicated love, hate relationship. So I mentioned that I'm a control freak, and I love process, I'm an introvert, so it doesn't make sense.
[00:12:46] A lot of times that I love being on platform, whether virtual or in-person and having conversations and what I've learned and how it actually applies to get rooted [00:13:00] is there's a tremendous amount of influence that you can have. With an audience, whether it's one-on-one or whether it's with 4,000 people, if a couple of things are true, number one, if you're rooted in the right things, and if you're not, your influences is out the window.
[00:13:21] And my very first speaking engagement was 2013 and I had it prospected. I was, I had the script, I had memorized the script. It was, I had the timing, the cues, the everything, selfishly. It was a holdout me and how I looked. And I was like, man, hopefully somebody gets something out of this, but really it was about me and really, it was about the message.
[00:13:51] And honestly, like I got up on stage. I was in. Three minutes and I lost it. Like I lost my train [00:14:00] of thought in that grips. And I was like, now what do I do? And it was the very first one. And it's the one that I will always remember because it was such a learning experience for me on it's progress, not perfection.
[00:14:19] It's, I think some of the other tips that I would have, or the other. Pieces of advice for people who are speaking publicly or in small group for an influence it to be authentic has nothing to do with me, it has everything to do with the listener. So how can you, as the speaker, give a message that is relatable.
[00:14:47] To the listener to have them selves be a part of that story. And so if you're telling a story, can they see themselves in it? Can they [00:15:00] feel maybe what you felt in like those are the smallest keys, but the most important, it doesn't have to be memorized. Just know your stuff, just be prepared and have authentic conversation with them in mind and not you.
[00:15:15]That is how to influence through public speaking. Am I think about public speaking, it's also group meetings. It's the church meetings. It's life group. It's not just platform speaking.
[00:15:26] Scott Maderer: [00:15:26] You can follow Stacy over on LinkedIn as Stacy, Henry O one, or you can find out more about her on her website@centrebranch.com.
[00:15:36] Of course I'll have links to all of that over in the show notes as well. Stacy, is there anything else that you'd like to share with the listener?
[00:15:43] Stacy Henry: [00:15:43] I just want to say, thank you so much to the listeners. And, I trust that you've taken a nugget or two through this, and I implore you to get really clear on your roots and then multiply that forward.
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