Episode 1220: Money and Self Worth

[00:00:00] Scott Maderer: Thanks for joining me on episode 1,220 of the inspired stewardship podcast.

[00:00:06] Rachel Murphy: I'm Rachel

[00:00:07] Murphy. I challenge you to invest in yourself, invest in others, develop your influence and impact the world by using your time, your talent and your treasures to live out your column. Having the ability to leave a legacy of emotional, spiritual, and financial wealth with your family is key.

[00:00:23] And one way to be inspired to do that is to listen to this, the inspired stewardship podcast with my friend, Scott.

[00:00:29] Scott Maderer: Feel desperate to make money, but you're doing them because you truly love to do them. And other people begin to feel that energy. They begin to sense that energy and they want to be around that. They want to be part of that. They wanna join in that journey. They wanna help you succeed because. Of that energy that you have around success.

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[00:01:19] in today's episode about investing in yourself through stewarding your treasures. I talk with you about how we often think that money leads to feeling more worth worthwhile. I share how, even if you go from having no money to having plenty, your emotions often don't change. And I also talk about how worth is more likely to lead to money than money to worth.

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[00:02:04] If you enjoy the show, when you're ready to buy from Amazon, just use inspired stewardship.com/amazon. We've talked before about how a lot of the studies show that over a certain amount money no longer makes you. And the truth is I would argue that's also true when it comes to worthiness. When it comes to feeling worthy, once you've got a certain amount of money, it doesn't necessarily directly affect your worthiness anymore.

[00:02:32] And that feeling that you have of being worthy. In fact, I would argue that sometimes the way we spend our money actually can make us feel less worthy. For instance, a lot of times we earn a lot of money and we are paid well, but we're paid well, doing a job that just makes us absolutely miserable. Is that worth?

[00:02:54] It is. Something that adds to our worthiness in life. We may just [00:03:00] value ourselves based on our income when the reality is there's much more than that. We oftentimes spend money on things that quote, keep us up with the Joneses that give us appearances of. the facade of having worth, as opposed to actually having worth actually know a couple that was a past client of mine that lived in one of the nicest houses in the neighborhood.

[00:03:26] And they drove the nicest cars in the neighborhood that they never invited anyone in the house because they didn't have any furniture because they couldn't afford it. And often we usually debt and take on. Other people's money in a way to try to add to our own worth. And then we end up leveraging our future for our present.

[00:03:51] The truth is the way we spend our money. Often doesn't directly lead to our feelings of worthiness. [00:04:00] And what's more, if you are in a situation where you're making less money than you'd like, whatever that is, whether especially if you've been actually dealing with, for instance, coming out of bad debt or dealing with living below the poverty line or struggling to.

[00:04:19] Feel worthy around the money because the truth is you make less than you would like to make. And you've got guilt and shame and fear all around that. And you don't feel like you deserve to be making more. And let's say you do manage to get out of that situation. You finally get the good job. You get a better education, you get a better position, whatever it is, you open your own business, you launch your own dream, and now you've got more money coming in.

[00:04:48] and oftentimes people look at me and they're like, finally, we've done it. We've paid off the debt. We've gotten where we wanna be. We've got money coming in. Why doesn't it feel perfect yet? [00:05:00] Why do I still feel like I'm struggling with these feelings of worthiness? And the truth is there's some practical reasons, like for instance, oftentimes you've got pent up needs, whether that's healthcare needs, whether that's emotional needs that now you're trying to catch up for, because you've been saying no to yourself for years and holding your breath, and now you finally get a chance to breathe and that's expensive.

[00:05:26] You also are now dealing with kind of the opposite fear. You had a fear when you didn't have enough that as soon as anything goes, The house of cards is gonna fall apart. You've every emergency that you have is both an emergency of that kind, plus a financial emergency on top of it. Now you've got some money and the financial emergency has gone away, but you still have problems.

[00:05:48] And what's more now you're so terrified of not having money because you know what it feels like to be in that situation, that you almost grab a hold of it too hard, and you [00:06:00] begin to hoard it as opposed to actually. Using it in the ways that lets you move past that you begin to struggle with imposter syndrome.

[00:06:09] You begin to struggle with the feeling that you don't belong. That as soon as people figure that out, you're gonna go right back to where you were before and be struggling all over again. And yet that's just a memory. That's just something from the past. And you often struggle with that sometimes for years.

[00:06:30] But the truth is the funny thing is that we often look to money to give us feelings of worth. But when you do the hard work and begin to develop your own feelings of worth, and you begin to recognize that you are worthwhile, that you do have something that you can give to the world, that you are valuable.

[00:06:54] That's when actually money often shows up in your life. That's. The [00:07:00] energy that you have begins to change. That's when the fact that you put this feeling out and you begin to do the things, not because you're hoping to get paid. Not because you feel desperate to make money, but you're doing them because you truly love to do them.

[00:07:15] And other people begin to feel that energy. They begin to sense that energy and they want to be around that. They want to be part of that. They wanna join in that journey. They wanna help you succeed because of that energy that you have around success. And when that happens, the money often shows up.

[00:07:38] So it's not that spending money and using money gives you worth, but it is that if you can do the hard work to develop and believe in your own worth, then the money truly actually starts to show up. Thanks for listening.

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