Join us today for the Saturday Night Special about ways to find hope through coaching...
Although coaching isn't therapy some of the goals of coaching work similarly to hope therapy...
In tonight’s Saturday Night Special I share a bit about Hope Therapy and what it is. I share how coaching is, though not therapy, useful for this and I talk with you about why hope is fundamental to change.
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00:00:00 Welcome to tonight. Saturday night, special episode 62, I'm Wayne Titus author of the entrepreneur's guide to financial wellbeing. I encourage you to be inspired, to become a better steward through financial wisdom. By listening to this, the inspired stewardship podcast with my friend, Scott Mader, See the coaching can plug in and help with all of these in different ways.
00:00:31 Yeah. There's activities that I've done with clients where I help them keep a hope journal where they spend some time dreaming each and every week or each and every day and journaling about what hopes they do have. Cause a lot of times those hopes and become buried, but as you begin to pay attention to them, they come welcome. And thank you for joining us on the inspired stewardship podcast.
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00:01:28 I share how coaching is, although not therapy useful for this. And I talk with you about why hope is fundamental to change. You know, one area that a lot of folks need some help with is around the area of productivity. Getting not just more things done, but actually getting the right things done can be really, really tough. I've got a course called productivity for your passion.
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00:02:46 slash launch. So this week we've been talking about hope and one of the things that I've come across in the studies that I've done of psychological literature and psychology is this of hope therapy. Now it's based on this idea of, of hope theory. I mean, first off you, you have to believe that hope is a real thing that it actually exists and that it has some sort of indicator for our ability to look forward to the future and do things and be achieved.
00:03:19 Things be more productive in things. But we talked about this this week and I think by now, hopefully you can see that that's true, but basically a lot of times when you think about therapy and this is still sort of the, the idea we have is that therapy was based on finding negative symptoms and then removing them so that you get to better mental health and better mental performance.
00:03:44 But the idea behind hope therapy is subtly different. It's, it's more of a, a positive psychology movement that exists now where the focus is on increasing wellbeing rather than treating an illness or helping someone with something that's holding them back per se, it's out of positive psychology that this is born. And so rather than focusing on unpleasant or things that are bad,
00:04:11 hope therapy is about positive self talk. It's about using your imagination to develop and find your hope. And it's about developing relationships and connecting with supportive networks. So it's designed to help a client find clearer goals, produce multiple pathways to that goal and reframe barriers as challenges and brainstorm ways to overcome them. It helps improve satisfaction. It helps improve resilience. It helps deal with some levels of depression and it's not necessarily a replacement for therapy,
00:04:47 but it's certainly something that can be helpful in many, many situations. A hope therapy approach can also help you develop relationships that feed off of each other and allow you to work together maybe with your spouse or others, to be able to feed and help each other with hope. So, the interesting thing is, is coaching though. It's not therapy and,
00:05:14 and it certainly isn't coaching can often work in the same sort of positive psychology way because a lot of what you do in coaching is that forward looking it's about helping clients find goals and set goals and develop a realistic way of achieving those goals. It's about helping them overcome the barriers and the obstacles that come up any time we're moving towards achieving any sort of goal it's about helping the client visualize the future and dream about it.
00:05:45 And in a more positive way, all of these things are part of hope therapy. And it's also part of what we do in coaching. Now, again, coaches are not therapist and I would never represent that it's a replacement for therapy. If that's something that is needed, but it's certainly something that can work alongside it. You know, the truth is that hope is necessary for change.
00:06:11 Having a level of realistic hope, having the ability to see that there is something that you can do that will make things better Is good. It Studies that have been done and hope correlates with greater academic performance, with greater athletic performance, with greater physical and psychological wellbeing measures of feeling more comfortable and more hopeful about your life obviously goes along with hope. It,
00:06:39 the feeling of being more successful and being more connected and having less stress are all measured is factors of help. Hope can be a protective factor that helps people bounce back from things that are outside of their control. More quickly. There's tons of benefits to hope that are necessary and fundamental To change. But it's Often hard to develop and find hope, especially during challenges.
00:07:08 See the truth is there's different things that can cause us to lose hope or to have our hope damaged. One is what they call the skidding effect. This is when things feel like they're completely out of your control and being able to find ways to take little bits of control is part of the intervention that's needed. Another is called the bruising effect. This is when you've received a life setback,
00:07:32 something that has happened that is Happened to you and you, I feel again, that this has developed a sense of hopelessness around it. The, the boomerang effect is when somebody has tried everything they can think of and then finds themselves right back where they started from they've continued to work at something over and over and over. And yet it always returns to where they started.
00:07:56 And then the last kind of hopelessness is around what they call the alien effect. This is feeling like no one else understands you. No one else understands the problems that you're facing. And you can see that coaching can plug in and help with all of these in different ways. You know, there's activities that I've done with clients where I help them keep a hope journal,
00:08:19 where they spend some time dreaming each and every week or each and every day and journaling about what hopes they do have because a lot of times those hopes have become buried, but as you begin to pay attention to them, they come back out there's ways called hope maps, which is where you visualize your goal. And you begin to identify problems that could come up and barriers that could come up and even brainstorm about what you would do about them.
00:08:46 You could even spend some time exploring what you believe about hope and what you don't believe about hope. What do you think is true about this feeling of do, do you feel plugged in with your real meaning and your real hope and your real dreams, or is it just something that you're continuing to struggle with and not really ever getting in touch with the bigger why?
00:09:11 See, the interesting thing is when it comes to making change, when it comes to doing things different, having the hope that it can happen is fundamental to actually making the change happen. And just like hope therapy is a tool that can be used. Coaching can be used as well. If you felt yourself, losing your hope, then seek out a therapist or seek out a coach who will work with you on rediscovering your hope again.
00:09:40 And that is the first step towards making positive change. Thanks for listening.
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Hope is being able to see that there is light despite all of the darkness. - Desmond Tutu