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Thanks for joining me on episode four nine out the inspired stewardship podcast.

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I'm free is rice author of well actually i challenge you to invest in yourself invest in others develop your influence and impact the world are using your time your talent and your treasures to live your calling,

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having a right relationship with all of your gifts is nikita doing this way to be inspired to do that is to listen to this inspiring stewardship podcast with my friend scott made.

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Read the frustration the most shared in the problem and situation and i found something from it that i can take away that actually was positive and noticed that i turned into an action i didn't something i can learn.

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You for joining us in the inspired stewardship.

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If you truly desire to become the person who god wants you to be can you must learn to use your time your talent and your treasures for your true calling.

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Episode about investing in yourself first but your talent i talk with you about what the problem really is when you have a problem,

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the difference between positive thinking and re framing problems and winery framing is the key to feeling forward.

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Do you have problems really do you have problems and course the answer to that question is pretty much.

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For everyone at some level yes we all have things to go wrong in our lives we all have challenges that we son.

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You know the other positive thinking where we re framing we talk about opportunities instead of challenges you get told that alot of the business world where,

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it's not a problem it's it's an opportunity that comes along in andaz how you need to think about everything.

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Not true is there a lot of truth to that.

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That's part of what we're gonna talk about that it in this episode is this idea of what is the real problem when you have a problem.

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The truth is.

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When we have a problem when something is going wrong in our life when we are getting where we need to go when things are not going well.

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Yes the problem the thing it's not going well are the problem the way that we think about the problem.

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Often it's really not a problem that's the problem it's the problem.

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That's behind the problem the problem is our reaction and attitude are.

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Action that we take in response to the problem the problem sometimes is not the problem it's the problem behind the problem.

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Know before you go to far one of the things that immediately comes to mind when i start saying that is a lot of the.

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Positive thinking material that's out there they the idea that you know just stay positive backup what career everything will be better tomorrow

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you know the problems that come along your really just opportunities in the sky so you should you should go whenever a problem comes along because that's just a new opportunity for you to succeed.

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Just think positive everything will work out in the end you've heard it,

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you probably even done it u done the information and exercises you set down and put all the positive thoughts in the hopes that you would change your world.

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And nothing happened at all but there is a different way of looking at it sometimes it's not about just.

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Thinking positive it's not about just thinking things are gonna get better it's not about just dreaming the results and letting your brain visualize six s.

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Instead it's actually about re framing.

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Re framing is a little different than just positive thinking this isn't about just looking at the world and saying things should be better

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it's not looking at the world and saying you know it really shouldn't be this hard it's not looking at the world and saying everything is going wrong with my world and going down the road the route of making everything per minute pervasive

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m personal.

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Maybe i'm kirk and repeating the sites so it's not you that visualize positive or negative instead,

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re framing is about shifting your stinking about

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the situation it's about looking at the situation from a different point of view it help sis change the emotional tone and meaning of what's going on.

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We can't actually refreshed from a problem two a challenge

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what to do it's not just about thinking positive it's not just about saying how rare got a problem it's about actively taking on the role of pausing and reflecting and reviewing

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recognizing the emotion calling alex is this makes me angry yes this makes me frustrated yes this makes me afraid yes this hurts me,

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you need to acknowledge those feelings it's something that another person dead knowledge that the other person made you frustrated.

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Acknowledge that you're feeling the emotion of registration because of an action taken.

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But look at the situation and began to think instead,

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what is the lesson i can learn from this what is the thing that i need to take away from that what's going on in this situation,

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that isn't necessarily a positive what is it lease something that i can take away is the last step,

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what are the interesting experiences i had back in the day when i was a school teacher and this is a minor thing but it was a really big thing is right before school started we always have two or three days of what they called a and service and it inevitably some

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group from outside would come and and a black dress for several hours about some topics that really didn't help us become better teachers

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we're all frustrated and tired and angry because we have things that would rather be doing that we were more important and,

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i use to be frustrated as well and then one day i thought to myself wait a minute.

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I'm somebody who instruct children if nothing else i can sit through this lesson i can learn from it,

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how not to engage my students

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i can't pay attention to what i should not do because its disengage in the audience here i forgot it'll cause my students to engaged and i began to take away from these bad your a sissy nuggets let me be a better

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teacher,

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i re framed the frustration the motion in the problem in the situation and i found something from it that i can take away that actually was

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pause the depth and noticed that i turned into an action i did something i learned something from it and i put that action in the practice.

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That's why they re framing is one of those tools that can be at keith actually feeling forward see the truth is that,

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when we make mistakes when we have problems when we have challenges where things go wrong

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often it's out of those things that come my opportunities for six s it's why i talk all the time about running experiments in trying things out because as you run these experiments as you try then out,

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that's what allows you to begin to succeed.

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Sorry frame becomes a key part of the process of being able to allow yourself to make mistakes.

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I have problems have these challenges that later lead to success.

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So what problems do you have today and how can you refrain them so that you can take a positive action and began to fail forward thanks for listening.

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