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Burns energy consumption it traps you like quick sand but it doesn't actually do anything.

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This begins to lead this stress.

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Biggest delete the feeling that trapped hopeless a create a victim mindset by definition whining gets you stop.

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Episode about investing in yourself by stuart your time i talk with you about the difference between wyoming and venting whining is a huge waste of time,

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and white wine and leads to worry and stress not six s.

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So few years ago i was part of the leadership team and a corporation and i had,

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oh adults and people that reported directly to me and then each of those words directors that had a dozen or so people reporting to them.

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M within the company i was in a position where oftentimes people would come with problems and one of the things that i discovered,

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after a few years if there's a real difference between people that came in and and we're whining and people that came in and just needed to vent,

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you are the truth is for some of us with our personality and other things we need to sit down with other people and unload our problems we need that moment.

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Just talk about it out loud with somebody not necessarily to have them provide a solution not necessarily to have them give me advice but just to have them

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listen,

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stop just the male female thing i think sometimes there are some differences in how they handle things like this but i've seen both men and women,

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over the years to come and and need that time to just sit down and sometimes people process information by talking through that information and submit talking out loud with someone else they process the emotions,

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a process that the process the information and oftentimes at the end of the day say thank you so much for listening i got the answer they walk out of the room even though you said almost nothing the entire conversation.

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There's also folks that come and do something different you got the action seems to be the same i mean they do start talking about the problem.

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Fairly quickly becomes clearer the third not actually venting they're not venting instead they're whining.

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So i actually use to tell folks your allowed to vent you're not allowed to wine and then i had to find it for them.

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So curious my definition maybe you have one as well if you do i'd love for you to share it with me because i've heard a lot of different definitions of the difference between whining and venting and i'm always curious about how different people c,

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for me.

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The q the information that helps me see that was sent when u set down and you talk about the problem you talk about the emotional you talked about what was going on,

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one time and then you moved on,

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begin to work and brainstorm and look for a solution you ask for advice you propose this solution yourself up and tried something,

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where was something that was completely out of your control you left it to the side u you put it down and walked away from that metaphorical speaking.

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Wind and on the other hand was repeating the problem you are going back over and over again you begin to dwell on the emotion,

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you begin to circle back and talk about it again after you finish describing at once.

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What others trying to move you forward in touch beginning to think about a solution you refuse to go there and circle back to the beginning and begin talking through the problem again.

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You begin to make everything about the problem instead of being able to move past it and look forward.

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Whining begins that circular spiral that often traps,

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can i see more whining about things that you have no control over but ive also seen people wine about things that they have complete control of control over,

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because i get stuck in that cycle.

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Let's see that's the problem why is a huge waste of your time yo it's like sitting in a rocking chair rocking back and forth hoping that you'll be out across the room.

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Yeah you might be able to get them eventually but it's actually gonna be really slow not very official didn't make a lot of marks on the floor.

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It's not the way to do it whining just waste time and waste of motion energy and trapped in a cycle,

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you remember we talked before about the three pieces permanent pervasive and personal,

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why nintendo stock lead you down the path of making the stains whatever your problem is into one of those three piece perhaps all three and it just waste time and emotional energy.

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Whining leads to worry,

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remember where we talked about before where is the least of fish thing on the planet because at the end of the day worry does nothing.

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Hey burns energy burn some motion it's traps you,

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like quicksand but it doesn't actually do anything this begins to lead this stress.

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Begin silly to the feeling that trapped hopeless it creates a victim mindset by definition whitening gets you stop.

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Venting sometimes can help get you i'm stuck,

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whining leads to these bad things not to success and get it i want to be clear because a lot of people here that's nice that you're saying i should never talk about my problems that's not what i'm saying.

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Would you should never why about your problems instead it's fine to seek advice it's fine to seek counsel is find the work with a counselor or a pastor friend,

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it's even ok to vent and just unload things occasionally,

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i do suggest if you're renting to someone you don't want their input you don't want their advice you don't wanna solution proposed that you like to know what front that you just want them to listen.

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Listen to yourself to think about what you're saying and make sure you don't begin to cycle back and repeat the exact same things that you said before.

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Because you no longer feel thing and your whining and again that's the trap.

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So be careful and i understand the difference between venting and whining and if you find yourself wyoming just stop your whining.

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