Join us today for the Interview with Mila Grigg, author of Forged by Fire: How to Develop an Unstoppable Personal Brand...
This is the interview I had with brand maven and author Mila Grigg.
Today I interview Mila Grigg. Mila shares with you how your personal brand comes from your personal story. Mila also shares how faith can overlap with who you are and your brand. I also ask Mila to share with you how you can get unstuck by refocusing on your key brand.
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Episode 1292: Interview with Mila Grigg from MODA about Your Personal Brand
[00:00:00] Scott Maderer: Thanks for joining us on episode 1,292 of the Inspired Stewardship Podcast.
[00:00:08] Mila Grigg: I'm Mila Grigg. I challenge you to invest in yourself, invest in others, develop your influence and impact the world by using your time, your talent, and your treasures to live out your calling. Having the ability to live your authentic personal brand is key, and one way to be inspired to do that is to listen to this The Inspired Stewardship podcast with my friend Scott.
[00:00:32] While this hap, when this happened, I knew the Lord, but I didn't have a relationship with him like I do now. And when you fall to your knees and everything's taken away from you you really have, you have to know where to turn to because that can be so devastating. It'd be hard to get back up again.
[00:00:52] Scott Maderer: Welcome and thank you for joining us on the Inspired Stewardship Podcast. If you truly desire to become the [00:01:00] person who God wants you to be, then you must learn to use your time, your talent, and your treasures for your true calling. In the Inspired Stewardship Podcast, you will learn to invest in yourself, invest in others, and develop your influence so that you can impact.
[00:01:25] Today I interview Mila Greig. Mila shares with you how your personal brand comes from your personal story. Mila also shares how faith can overlap with who you are and your brand. And I also asked Mila to share with you how you can get unstuck by refocusing on your key. One reason I like to bring you great interviews like the one you're gonna hear today is because of the power in learning from others.
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[00:02:42] Mila's expertise in building personal brands, growing leadership, equity, and crafting marketing and social media strategies comes from her experience, not opinion or observation from executives at Fortune 100 s to first time entrepreneurs and everything in between. Mila has. [00:03:00] Leaders with various backgrounds and organizations of all sizes create, communicate, and profit from their brands.
[00:03:07] Mila recently released Forged By Fire, how to Develop an Unstoppable Personal Brand. Welcome to the show, Mila.
[00:03:16] Mila Grigg: Oh, thank you
[00:03:16] Scott Maderer: for having me. Absolutely. It's great to talk to you and I hear a little bit about your book and about your journey and what brought. To hear today. So let's start with that. Why don't we talk a little bit about your personal journey and what brought you to put this book Forged By Fire, out into the world.
[00:03:37] Mila Grigg: Yeah that's such a good question because I'm not exactly sure I know the answer exactly just yet. good. I have been working in the branding world for a couple of decades now, and knew at some point in time I had always felt led to write down experiences as I went along and stories that I had heard from clients because if one person is going through [00:04:00] something 10 other people are going through the same thing and how.
[00:04:04] Overcame challenges and stuff. So I've always been a note taker, but it really was when I went through a fire of my own and then started to see other people ask or hear other people ask, how are you getting through this? And how on earth are you building a company through this fire? And what are the things that you're relying on and doing in order to continue to be successful?
[00:04:29] Someone who is walking through something that is incredibly hard. And so that really was the impetus at that point to really start journaling and writing stuff down. And then fast forward another, gosh eight years or more. And then decided to really sit down and get it all on pen and paper.
[00:04:48] And really it was to share a journey and also to teach brand because people at seminars would say, gosh, there isn't a book that covers everything about personal branding. There are pieces of these branding and tons of [00:05:00] books, but not one that covers all of them. And that, and I thought, okay, fine.
[00:05:04] It's time. It's time to do it. And let's talk about both the personal journey and then how do you build. .
[00:05:10] Scott Maderer: So let's unpack that a little bit more. I just wanna start on the kind of personal brand fact side, because you mentioned personal branding, you didn't say branding, you didn't say marketing you said personal branding and I'm a coach and I work with a lot of people on personal finance and I know that word personal.
[00:05:30] It's actually just as important, if not more important than the word finance whenever you talk about that. So why do what is personal branding?
[00:05:40] Mila Grigg: Yeah it really is how people describe you. So if on this podcast you get off and you're, and you think to yourself, man, that was horrible
[00:05:48] I would hate it and I'd cry, but that's my brand. You own it. You own how you know who I am. And it's our job to share to the world who we are and share value in our stories so that [00:06:00] we can. be in charge of the narrative of our own lives, but our brand is how people describe us.
[00:06:05] Whether it's right or wrong, we don't own our brands. And that is really personal brand. A lot of people will aen it to reputation. And that's one of those things where I've always said reputation is what happens to you. Brand is an intentional sharing of who you are and your narrative with the world so that people get it.
[00:06:27] Scott Maderer: So it's the it's that intersection of how do you show up in the world and then what stories do you tell? Is that kind of
[00:06:37] Mila Grigg: Yes. What you're, yeah, a hundred percent. Yeah. And owning that at all times and knowing that your brand is always on stage and people are always watching, hearing, looking, waiting.
[00:06:46] Being able to share who you are and your value and your gifting in a way where people capture it quickly because the world is moving so fast. Whether in person or online, social media, whatever it might be. So being able to take the true [00:07:00] pieces of yourself. And share those in the right way, at the right time with the right tone of voice or the right story online so that people can quickly get an overview of who you are and not have to search for it, because nobody is going to search for it.
[00:07:15] So you have you've got to supply that to them pretty fast.
[00:07:18] Scott Maderer: And I think that's one of those things. It's I have a young 19 year old and we've had the conversation. be what you post online is part of how people perceive you. You've gotta be it's not lie and it's not fake it, but at the same time, be conscious of what are you sharing?
[00:07:37] What message are you putting out into the world? Because 10 years from now that could come back to haunt you. It, yes, it just could if you're not conscious of it.
[00:07:47] Mila Grigg: So yes. Never goes
[00:07:48] Scott Maderer: away, . No, not especially, not today's world. So let's talk a little bit about your personal story. A, as much as you're comfortable sharing, cause Forged by [00:08:00] Fire and you mentioned pretty devastating events and yet you continue to build your company and I think that's important for people to hear a little bit about because I think all of us have periods in our life where we've had job loss you know personal tragedy divorce, death, you know what I call all the Ds, right?
[00:08:20] Divorce, death, drugs, disability. Yes. Whatever, right? All of those things show up in our life, and yet oftentimes it's at the same time that we're trying to. Raise a family build a business, do all of these other things, and curate our brand and our story. How does that intersection of to the challenges like you've had in your life, can you walk us through how you actually manage that when it came to looking at the story that you were putting out in the
[00:08:48] Mila Grigg: world?
[00:08:50] Yeah, absolutely. So my story really began in the forged my fire story in the book because. , it was really, I was building a brand through a [00:09:00] fire and at the time didn't necessarily realize it. And it's hard on a normal day to build a business, like you said, and then when something like life hits you in the face out of the blue it's a million times harder and you really have to have a strong foundation to fall back on.
[00:09:15] So in 2009, my husband Was indicted for wire and mail fraud. He was they questioned him and then he really very quickly said, here's everything. And what's happened with the company and what I've done. Fast forward nine months or so later, and he is sentenced in a federal court to 10 years in a federal prison.
[00:09:38] And federal is much different than state. You're you stay as long as you, they say there isn't a hey, you only serve 5% of the time, or 30% of the time. It is what it is. At the time I'm building a business I'm not the breadwinner. I I'm trying to work with and am working with executives at high levels and this things like [00:10:00] that happen.
[00:10:00] It's very public and it's very hard. When I say hard I need a new word to create in the dictionary for hard because it's just phone call can truly bring you to your knees. I've experienced that yes. At that time it was just one of those things that. I didn't know how I was going to get through it, and I knew that I had to keep going.
[00:10:21] I was pregnant at the time with my first, he I have other stepchildren amazing kids that came before, but I was pregnant with my first and just thought to myself, How on earth am I going to make this work? How on earth am I going to forge forward and build a brand and continue to be seen as someone who has integrity and all of those things?
[00:10:43] So my husband's in federal prison, I'm pregnant, I'm building a company, and all of those things are coming at me all at once. And Tru. Trying to stay married and make a decision to stay married. And understanding that when I said my vows, I said [00:11:00] Lord, I made a covenant with you first.
[00:11:02] And then I made a covenant with my husband and I took those vows really seriously. And through that time I've watched the Lord work on my husband and he works. He's worked on my life. And I and so you see cha, I saw change in him. I saw change in myself. And we're still married today by the grace of God.
[00:11:20] And that fire and the time that I spent. Building my business. He ended up coming home after five years. The same federal judge who sentenced him to 10 vacated her own sentence on an appeal because she to simplify it, hadn't heard everything and wasn't presented with all of the facts in the first trial and the first run through and heard what she heard the second time vacated her sentence.
[00:11:46] So he basically served around half the time. . And through that time you can imagine you have people who are, who love on you, and you have people who were friends who then were very quickly not your friends. You have people in the business community who said, [00:12:00] no, thank you. And then you had others who rallied around you.
[00:12:02] And I was just blessed to have so many rally around me. So that really, it in a small short nutshell was the. .
[00:12:08] Scott Maderer: And I part of the reason why I want to unpack that and share that is again, I think we all have our own versions of. Whatever it is, challenges, hard things that show up in our life and again, oftentimes we look at somebody and it's oh, you've got a book out, you've got a successful business, you're doing great.
[00:12:31] Everything's perfect. And it must have always been that way, because we are, we're looking at the end of a journey and saying you've got a good marriage, you've got kids, you've got success. Oh, it's always been that way. And yet, Built this it's not like everything was smooth and you had a you yellow brick road to success.
[00:12:51] Mila Grigg: Yeah, no, not at all. There were days that it really helped me to understand the fire, why brand is so important. Because I had a foundation and I [00:13:00] knew who I was and so on the days where I was exhausted or angry hurt. And I'll go back to exhausted those are the days. You really have to know who you are and you must know why you do what you do in order to some days even get out of bed.
[00:13:16] And to be your best when you're feeling your worst. And so when you have a good brand foundation, you know what your core values are you can look at those values and go, look, on my best day, I have integrity, I have excellence in all that I do. I'm efficient, decisive, whatever those words are that describe.
[00:13:34] And it helps you to remember who you are on your best day, when you're feeling good, looking good and all the you're going on all cylinders. Because on those days where it's just there are days where I was visiting him in a federal prison. I have an infant, I'm building a company.
[00:13:49] I'm trying to get clients, I'm trying to share a message, trying to still discover pieces of who I am and grow my own gifting and not let go of the dreams and the hopes and that [00:14:00] I had and so you're just like, this is. A ton of work. And on, on top of that there's an added situation that's just crushing.
[00:14:09] And so you really must know who you are in those moments. And the it's hard to be vulnerable, especially in a business community, but we all we're all human beings and put our pants on one leg at a time. I've realized, and at the end of the day, there were so many people that rallied around the moment I was vulnerable.
[00:14:28] And was able to, to very clearly articulate, Hey, this is what's kinda happening in my personal life, but I'm still able to move forward build a company market and be successful on some level. People were like, Hey, can I tell you about my trial? Can I tell you about what I'm walking through, what I've walked through, or shoot what I've done wrong and I'm about to walk through.
[00:14:47] And so I started to get calls from people. That under any other circumstance I wouldn't have and to hear things that I would not have. And so it's important to share and to let go of the [00:15:00] fear of what will people say and to move forward regardless. You mentioned earlier as you were sharing your story that your faith and your understanding of the covenant you had with God and with your husband, and these things showed up in that journey as well.
[00:15:18] Scott Maderer: How do you think your faith journey intersected and overlapped with the work you were doing, the business you were building the trials you were going. You
[00:15:29] Mila Grigg: know it led it without Jesus, I would not be here today. I wouldn't be talking to you and I wouldn't be married. I certainly wouldn't have another little girl.
[00:15:38] I, I would not be, I wouldn't be here. I wouldn't have a book. I wouldn't be breathing. So while I was while this hap when this happened, I knew the Lord, but I didn't have a relationship with him like I do now. And when. Fall to your knees and everything's taken away from you. You really have, you have to know where to turn to because that can be [00:16:00] so devastating.
[00:16:01] It'd be hard to get back up again. My faith journey I would, there were days that I would pray every 10 seconds. There were days where I'd say, Lord, help me breathe. Help me walk. Help me to know who to call. Help me to know where to market to help me inspire ideas for marketing. Inspire.
[00:16:18] Just whether it was help me breathe, help me to not be angry. It was a consistent, and to be, I was in the word, I wouldn't say every day because that would be a lie, but close to it. So I would open the Bible and say, Lord I'm overwhelmed. Help. It was truly a journey that led me to have a relationship with him and enabled me to hear him, but more than just praying.
[00:16:43] I understood then, and I understand now how important it is to open the Bible and to be in his word and not just pray. So that really was the biggest learning curve because he speaks to you through the Holy Spirit, through his. And I'm [00:17:00] not sure what, I didn't talk to him about on a daily basis and several dozen times, sometimes a day.
[00:17:06] And now, still today, there are moments where I fall off that path and I don't ask him or talk to him as much as I should, and then something happens and I'm like, oh, I know exactly where I'm going. And then I'm back I'm like, okay, Lord, I'm sorry that I wasn't in the word every day. Man, I can see where I can see the successes in my.
[00:17:27] When I'm with him and I can see the failures in my life when I'm not. And so that really was the distinction that I, one of the many lessons I learned through that fire without him nothing is possible. And. Life is harder without him, that's for sure. .
[00:17:42] Scott Maderer: Yeah. And not that life is easy when you when you have a yeah, cuz I times sometimes like we hear that message, it's oh, everything will be perfect if no, that's not the life we're promised that's definitely not either.
[00:17:53] We're still gonna have challenges. It's just, it's easier to walk through 'em when you have that faith.
[00:17:59] Mila Grigg: Amen. Yeah, [00:18:00] exactly so
[00:18:01] Scott Maderer: how did you come. To actually start working on personal brands. What was the genesis of that focus for your work?
[00:18:12] Mila Grigg: Yeah I wish I could say that I'm this brilliant mind and I had this plan and it just worked.
[00:18:19] It didn't I didn't really have a plan. I actually was on a photo shoot one day for a famous person and I was watching somebody style that person. And I. That is really not who that person is and I don't know what you're thinking, but that he he looks ridiculous in that outfit and I have no idea why you would do that.
[00:18:38] And so it was really that moment I said I think I can do this better. Decided to start the company and then worked in Ha really have ha I've been in thousands of closets and image shops, like actually shopping with clients. And from that point really was able to see how an image. Done well would share [00:19:00] who somebody was authentically, not trying to create something that they weren't. And I always worked with business people. I never really went outta that spectrum. People would being in national, people would say, Hey, can you work with this artist? I'm like, yeah. But then at some point I just said, no, I'm. I'm really just business, just executives on some level and realized through those shops, truly thousands o of them, I started to work on and help with other things, whether it be communication or I obviously image, but presentation.
[00:19:30] I, I think that I do believe that the Lord gives each of us a gift. And that's all I have, and that's the only one I've got. I have nothing else. And so I can quickly see what someone is doing incorrectly or not doing well and how. Helps to, or how that hurts them and doesn't help them to share their message of who they are, whether that's emotional intelligence or listening or speaking over people, whatever it might be.
[00:19:57] I would always cringe in meetings and I'd find [00:20:00] myself going, Ooh, I have a wince face in a meeting because I could see other people not connecting to somebody or not liking somebody, not listening, not giving them an opportunity. They should, by any stretch of the imagination, they should have it because of their.
[00:20:15] So I quickly was able to go, you know what? There's something in me that allows me to see that fast. And again, that's all. I've got one gifting and that's it. And so really decided to start helping people that way and had people along the way encourage me and go, Hey, like this, you're really good at this.
[00:20:30] You need to actually monetize this and coach. So I've read hundreds of books and listened to podcasts. It's been 20 years, so just really learned. Worked for free for a long time in order to ensure that I knew what I was doing to a degree before I started charging. And then started to build brand and I understand marketing as well.
[00:20:51] And so that was really a great intersection of marketing and building a brand and sharing a message. So I really fell into it and discovered what I believed to be [00:21:00] God's purpose for me in this world. And I think that's one of those things, a lot of times people will quote, and I'm just curious if you did this.
[00:21:10] Scott Maderer: Something that kind of quote comes easy to you, but other people maybe can't do it. We oftentimes look at that and g at least at first, go this isn't special. This isn't anything that somebody would pay me for, or that, that's really because it's easy, right? I can see it. I know how to do it.
[00:21:27] Did you have that struggle early on of not believing that people would actually quote, pay you to, to get in their closet with them and help 'em with this sort of thing?
[00:21:37] Mila Grigg: Oh my gosh. Up until a couple years ago, I still feel that way. There are times where I'll go and do a speaking event and a keynote, and I'm speaking to people who are incredibly successful.
[00:21:48] Just. There's people we read about in books and there I am as a keynote and when I was younger I'd think, oh my gosh, I'm so much younger than these people. I wish I still had that problem. But do [00:22:00] not. But yeah, of course I go in there and I think, how do they not know this?
[00:22:03] And surely they have emotional intelligence, and I'm certain they have the ability to read a room while they're speaking. gosh, even more I'm sure because you're here, you know how to share a story. It's not the case. Those giftings don't come naturally to others. And I think a lot of people, you have nailed a point that I have thought about for so many years.
[00:22:23] A lot of people miss their calling because of that very fear. Why it's. It's easy to me and surely everybody else knows how. It was my husband who actually said it to me, he was in prison and we were talking about this and on a visit, and he said, just because it's easy for you doesn't mean that other people know it.
[00:22:40] He said, always assume they know nothing and then teach and don't. I had someone actually, once I, they hired me as a keynote to come in about image really early on and they said, you didn't cover half of the things that we talked about you covering. And I said I walked in. Everybody looked good.
[00:22:56] And he goes, are you kidding? This is they knew [00:23:00] you were coming. They don't know anything. What were you thinking? And so we redid it and I actually didn't even charge for it and it went well and we kept going for a while and it was great at the end. But assume everybody knows nothing and share your gifting.
[00:23:13] Otherwise you'll miss it. .
[00:23:14] Scott Maderer: Yeah. I think that's I think you're right. I think a lot of times we miss out on some of our greatest gifts because we just make the assumption it's easy for me, so everybody else must find this easy too. And it's not. Not even, not necessarily.
[00:23:29] Almost certainly not , yeah. At least very seldom have I seen that to be true. It's almost always not true when people come to you and they're they're in that place where they know something's wrong. They're feeling stuck, they're feeling held back, they're feeling frustrated.
[00:23:46] Maybe they've capped out in their career path and it's know, they keep going for the promotion and they're not getting it, or whatever it is. That feeling of frustration, whether it's a business owner or whether it's somebody in a career path, [00:24:00] what do you focus on or what do you see as some of the areas that kind of show up over and over again as holding people back?
[00:24:08] Mila Grigg: Fear of fear of sh what really, actually what it is worried about what other people are going to say. So typically anytime anybody is being held back or holding themselves back, it's because they won't share the story of who they are. And they're terrified of letting people in and being even slightly vulnerable at work.
[00:24:32] And people forget that people work with people that they like. And it's not a popularity contest, but you need to be authentic in your message and who you are. And whenever I see somebody sort of plateauing or even a business owner saying I can't share these things on social. Nobody cares. I hear this all the time.
[00:24:48] Nobody cares what I have to say. And I just go, man, if I. Nickel for every time I heard someone say that. People do care. And I, and it's a fear of what other people will think. I often find myself, I'm a big [00:25:00] fan of Gary Vaynerchuk in some of his messaging. And part of what he has said repeatedly is y go into an old person's home, a retirement home one of those communities, and look at the regret in people's eyes, and you will change the way you do.
[00:25:14] Being able to share your gifting, share who you are and share your values so that you don't miss easy opportunity. Is the thing that I see holding most people back. Even executives at high levels, they might be doing well, but could they be doing great? Sure. So fear. Fear of what will people think or fear of living for still, like what your parents might think.
[00:25:35] Fear. It's just absolutely fear of what others think. And when I went through this fire, a lot of people thought many things that were untrue about me. So it really pulled any fear that I had of being quote unquote discovered out and has allowed me to be talking with you today and sharing a vulnerable story that others are go, oh my gosh, I can't believe you share that for me.
[00:25:57] I'm like, Of course I have to share it. It's a part of my [00:26:00] life. It's a part of my story. It's why I'm good at what I do, frankly. And so it's fear and it's, and it it's, people don't even sometimes realize that it is fear, but it's fear. And
[00:26:11] Scott Maderer: so going the other direction, if they're reaching out to you for help, what are some of the things that.
[00:26:18] Where do you start? Because like you said, a lot of times I think even if it is fear, they, it's not that they don't come to you and go, I'm afraid that's not what they're gonna see. So where do you start working with people whenever they're in that place of being capped out, so to speak, or topped out?
[00:26:37] Mila Grigg: Yeah I think that the first thing that I typically do is ask them what their goals are and then while talking with them, and it doesn't take very long, you can, I can see pretty quickly what the issues might be. The skills that they don't have in order to you can, I have seen the reason I do what I do.
[00:26:56] I've seen a lot of brilliant people who deserve a promotion or who deserve. [00:27:00] A move either by promotion or title or money who aren't getting it because they simply aren't sharing in the right way or they have something that stops them. So under that personal brand definition, you have communication, you have reading a room, you have storytelling.
[00:27:19] Emotional intelligence is something that most people think they have. But don't, there are stats that you know that are like, Hey, everyone thinks they have it, but 10% do you know? It's wild. Storytelling is a piece of that obviously image. And so if you are not doing one of those things well or aware of the ones that you don't necessarily do well it, it will hold you back from your gifting being seen and from that promotion and from the opportunity.
[00:27:45] Most people think that their bosses are mean and they aren't actually giving them a leg up, but most of the time it's your. because you haven't shared why you should be given a leg up or why you should run a division or have an opportunity and you're waiting [00:28:00] for people to see you. And as the world gets faster and faster, nobody's going to just look at you and be like, Hey, I think you have a star over your head.
[00:28:07] Tell me about yourself. It's not gonna happen. Doing your job good enough. It's just not good enough anymore. And we've heard that a lot, but those soft tho those things that people see as soft skills, the ei, the storytelling, the calm, those are the things that are going to help you be seen. So that's where we start.
[00:28:22] What are you doing well? What aren't you doing? Sometimes I'll watch them at work and watch them meet with other people and meet with other people in order to see what their brand really. I've had people say, I think I'm a leader, and I'm going, great, that's great. Let's, let me talk to everybody else.
[00:28:36] And everyone else is telling me I wouldn't follow that person down the hallway, much less into a fire. So not a leader are you, I've had people say I'm really likable and have their whole team say, I don't like that person at all. They lead with fear. They're a gossiper. And so my job is to go back and be like, Hey, nobody likes you, but we're gonna work on that.
[00:28:53] So it just depends. It really depends on what they are doing wrong and then diving in really fast to [00:29:00] try to fix it and grow those muscles. So one other question that came to mind is we've talked a lot you work with business owners and we've talked in that business context, but.
[00:29:12] Scott Maderer: You also, the story you shared is very personal on your own quote, not your business life, so to speak, and yet obviously it affected your business life. How do you see that intersection and overlap with your personal brand, your personal life, and your business life and your work life?
[00:29:31] How do those things fit together? ?
[00:29:36] Mila Grigg: Yeah, that's a great question. A lot of people think that they have to have two separate ways of communicating and two separate lives, and it's not the case. You just have to learn how to share the story at the right time. With my story, the jig was up.
[00:29:50] I had to share the story because everybody knew about it. So really was being able to share that narrative honestly. But in the right way. Most [00:30:00] people don't share pieces of their personal life because they don't want to be vulnerable. They also don't think that it's relative to what they're doing at work.
[00:30:07] And you have to be a whole person. People need to see all of you, just not at the same time. and you have to be able to read someone. So a lot of branding, knowing, having a really strong brand, one of the skills you have to have is being able to read a room and read a person. So one of the, one of the things that I work with clients on, you have to have a, your stories out there, good, bad, and ugly, successful, and failures.
[00:30:33] And then you have to be able to read what that person that you're speaking with and that moment needs from you at the. and then read where they are, right? This is what they seem, this is what they deem valuable. These are the qualities and skills that they want to see with people that they work with.
[00:30:48] If you have one of those skills, you need to share that, but first you need to see what other people need from you, what part of your story they need and not to be afraid to share it. But what people do incorrectly [00:31:00] when they're too vulnerable is they vomit their story everywhere, all the.
[00:31:03] And they share it at work when they don't need to share it at work and they share it with people they don't need to share it with. So your personal. It's okay that I'm a mom. It's okay that I've been through hell and back. It's okay and it's okay that I've failed and it's really okay that I've been successful, but I don't share all of those things at once.
[00:31:23] So you really need to read a room, read the person, and then be able to share pieces of your story even through LinkedIn. And share why you like a certain article or why you like a certain author, why you like a certain leadership style and then share pieces of why you like that from your own life so people can start to pick up on the whole picture.
[00:31:43] People love a leader that they know. I, there are stats even today, like companies love. People, executives who are on LinkedIn are trusted more, and the companies that they're with are trusted more because they're seen as real people and they're more vulnerable people, like real, they want [00:32:00] to be authentic.
[00:32:01] So the ones that aren't being authentic and sharing their story over. X amount of time, it doesn't have to be immediate, are the ones that are being promoted and given opportunity and seen seen well because they've shared a real life story. Even if it's a failure, you've shared how you've learned, move forward.
[00:32:16] It's a great part of your story. It can be a foundational cornerstone to your success. So those, that's really, I hope I answered that. I think I went around in a circle scope, but hopefully I answered that well.
[00:32:26] Scott Maderer: No I think that's actually a, a great answer. Especially the pointing out. It's not having two separate lives.
[00:32:35] You're one person at home and you're a different person at work, but it's also not necessarily sharing every part of your life all the time. cuz I think we all know that person too, that we're like It's I really didn't need to know that. Thank you very much. Moments too.
[00:32:51] So it's it's neither one of those extremes is good, if
[00:32:55] Mila Grigg: that makes sense. Exactly. Yeah, that's a [00:33:00] gifting that you learn over time and by screwing it up , you agree? Yeah. I have a friend of mine who talks over people all of the time and you could say, Hey, my brother just had a car crash and he's in the I C U.
[00:33:12] And my friend would be like, oh, I had a friend who had a friend once who did this. And you're just like, please stop. You're killing me and you're killing your brand and you're so sweet. And I know you're trying to bond and you have every good intention. You look like a narcissist when you're not.
[00:33:27] So it's being able to know how to share and more importantly, it's how to listen. To know who people are so that you can share to their needs versus your own.
[00:33:36] Scott Maderer: Which sometimes includes meaning, not even sharing right now. Sometimes the right thing to do is just sit there and listen
[00:33:42] Mila Grigg: Amen. Yes.
[00:33:44] Scott Maderer: Because I think that we run into that, especially when people are dealing with struggles of, we so often we want to fix it. And cure it. And sometimes the best thing to do is just be present and just listen and hear. Yeah. [00:34:00] A hundred
[00:34:01] Mila Grigg: percent. It's a gifting that many of us have lost and need to work on, that's for sure.
[00:34:07] Scott Maderer: And again, Matt, we're back to the fast paced world. So much of this world today is about people just shouting at each other as loud as they can and listening is falling out of favor in a way.
[00:34:18] Mila Grigg: Yeah, a hundred percent. I that's funny you say that. I I've been really pounding with my clients.
[00:34:24] You can't share an opinion until you have equity, right? People have to know who you are, and they have to believe that you're worth listening to before you share a message, right? Yeah. People shout all the time and they're like, why am I not being heard? I'm like, because people don't know why they should care.
[00:34:39] That's a good brand. Brand walks in before you're you, yourself, get in the room. That's why people turn to your LinkedIn, turn to your social. But if you're yelling and no one's listening, it's probably because you haven't shared your story and haven't built brand equity. It's, and you'll be lost forever if you don't do it.
[00:34:56] So one of the
[00:34:57] Scott Maderer: things that my brand and that I [00:35:00] talk to people about all the time is stewardship. And that's one of the lenses that I put out in the world both as part of my story as well as when I'm working with others. So one of the things I like to do is just ask people when they hear that word stewardship, what is it that they hear and what's their understanding of that word?
[00:35:21] So for you, what does stewardship mean to you?
[00:35:25] Mila Grigg: Yeah. It's interesting. I've thought about a lot about this. For the past several, for the past couple weeks actually. And I have to go to the answer that's in the Bible and what it means to be a faithful steward in the Bible.
[00:35:39] And I hope that's the right direction, but for me it is. Diligently working day by day, often minute by minute to do God's will and to understand that every gift that you have is from him. And to be a good steward with the gift that you, with the gift, gifts, whatever it [00:36:00] might be that you've been given.
[00:36:01] To serve others and to really more than of, more often than not, I have to remember this, to be a faithful steward of God's grace in if in various forms. So that's really what it means to me. Understanding the gifts that he is given, remembering that it's not about me. It I might have this one gifting that I mentioned before.
[00:36:24] That's it. And I know that he fully has given that to me and I remember that it's his to use in any way he deems I should. So before I open my mouth, I typically pray, Lord, what do I say? I just prayed as you were asking this question please don't let me say the wrong thing. Because the gifting is what it is and I want it to be used in the way that he meant for it to be.
[00:36:48] So yeah, that would really be the definition for me. Hopefully that works for you, but that's mine.
[00:36:54] Scott Maderer: Yeah. Let and there is no right or wrong answer to that question. I think and I always [00:37:00] often use the analogy of asking people what leadership means. There's textbook definitions of leadership, but when you ask people.
[00:37:09] In the field is this person a good leader or does this person show leadership? I think a lot of times the definitions we get are very different, because they're situational and they're individual and they're personal, as opposed to, this is what Webster says, or this is what such and such leadership guru says.
[00:37:27] And so I always think of stewardship the same way. I think it's a personal word that means different things to different people. I don't think there is a right or wrong.
[00:37:37] Mila Grigg: No, I agree. It I have heard so many pastors talk about this word, obviously, and so many different examples of it in the Bible.
[00:37:44] And so many people in the Bible who are used as examples of it. But I think overarchingly when it comes to the gifts you've been given, the money you've been given, health you've been given and the relationships that you've been given to remember where it comes from and to [00:38:00] remember that.
[00:38:01] I have to remember every day, Lord, where, which direction do you want me to turn with what you've given me in order to reach the purpose? Like greatest fear, easily is getting to heaven and him going. I had all this for you. What? You just had to follow my lead and I, and to see all the things that I may have missed doing and having and being and all the fun and all the, and even the heartache that would've led to greater things.
[00:38:28] That's my greatest fear. And so being a steward of that gift is a really important thing for me. I don't wanna.
[00:38:35] Scott Maderer: I love your definition I can take your, I can take the pressure off. I think you're right. How's that? Awesome . So this is my favorite question of the show, though. I've had some guests tell me it's their least favorite.
[00:38:48] So we'll see how you feel about it. If I invented this magic machine today and I was able to pluck you from the chair where you are today and transport you back up into the future, [00:39:00] maybe 150, maybe even 200 years, and through the power of this machine, you were able to look back on your whole life what impact, what ripples do you hope you've left behind on the.
[00:39:14] Mila Grigg: Yeah gosh. That's awesome. I love this question because I think that's how we need to live every day as we're, when we're here, not when we're 90. For me I've been asked this question before, and it's funny because I wrote a business book but my, the impact that I want people to.
[00:39:32] The impact that I wanna have is that people find the Lord through something that I've done, said an example, that I've given a moment of grace, that I've given a moment of love or unexpected support or guidance or leadership, or just by the way I live my own life. For them to know that Jesus is real and that he loves them, and that if they don't somehow know him yet that it's okay, but just go ahead and look [00:40:00] up and say, Jesus, if you're real, I'd love to meet you.
[00:40:02] So if I could transport myself forward and then see the ripple effect, it would be generations of people and families and children that started with a simple, small stone. Maybe a nugget that I've dropped along the way and that led them to ask or led them to renew or led them to find faith in the.
[00:40:23] The living God that you know, you can have eternity with. And that for me, is it, and I answer that question and I know that people on a business level go what about business? I'm like, Ooh that's where you asked before. Personal and professional life has to intertwine. So I don't preach, I don't shove it down people's throats.
[00:40:41] It is not faith is to be found in the Lord on your. But if there's something that I do that led them to that relationship or renewed their faith, man that's it. That's it. There's no other reason for my existence at all.
[00:40:58] Scott Maderer: So as we of kick off the new [00:41:00] year, what are some of the things on the roadmap for 2023?
[00:41:04] What do you have planned? That's
[00:41:07] Mila Grigg: so exciting. I do a lot of marketing consulting. So I have a few clients coming up this next year where it's branded marketing consulting. So half the company's personal, half the company is corporate work. I have some really fun clients coming up where I get to go in and actually shape marketing departments and do, I always start the year off with, and it's funny, I don't do this intentionally, but brand audits.
[00:41:32] So I get to go in and go, what are you doing right? What are you doing wrong? let's talk to your marketing people. Are they up to date on what they need to be doing? And let's make 2023 a successful year. And that for me is always really fun. And then of course, talking about this book and sharing it with as many people as I can that so really it's same thing over and over again.
[00:41:51] Just so excited that have some new clients coming in that I'm looking forward to, just because it seems like a lot of fun different industries. So same thing over and [00:42:00] over, but the book I think is one of those things. I'm loving because again, it it shares both messages and so I think this next year I'll probably be doing as many of these fantastic podcasts, but not with anyone who is as good as you are.
[00:42:14] Over the next 12 months.
[00:42:17] Scott Maderer: You can find out more about Mila over on her website at Moda Image Consulting. That's M O D A image consulting.com. She's also active on social media as well. Of course, I'll have links to that over in the show notes as well as some links to her book. Mila, is there anything else you'd like to share with
[00:42:35] Mila Grigg: the listener?
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When this happened I knew the Lord but I didn’t have a relationship with him like I do now. When you fall to your knees and everything is taken away from you, you have to know where to turn to, because that can be so devastating you never want to get back up again. -Mila Grigg
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