Episode 1170 {Rebroadcast} Episode 15: Accountability is key

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[00:00:40] Scott Maderer: I know a lot of people that actually sit down, they say budgeting, doesn't work. Making, spending plans, doesn't work doing this stuff. Doesn't work because they sit down and they make this intricate plan and then they put it in a drawer and they don't ever look at it again. Yeah, that's not gonna work that's not really doing the process [00:01:00] because you're not holding yourself accountable to that.

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[00:01:30] in this week's episode. We talk with you about how accountability isn't a negative word, but it feels that way because of the threat of punishment or pain. We're gonna talk some about how you can build in accountability with money, whether you're married or single, and a little bit about a weekly meeting that you should have with yourself to hold yourself accountable.

[00:01:55] If you remember back in episode five, in episode 10, we've [00:02:00] been talking about in doing a money, audit, looking at our spending and tracking that and examining how it lines up with our goals. And are calling very soon. We're gonna be talking about and looking forward at doing a spending plan, otherwise known as a budget, but I try to always remember to use the term spending plan instead of budget, because for some reason, people don't like the word budget.

[00:02:28] Oftentimes I think they think it sounds like no, the word, no, but somehow spending plan sounds. And you can look forward to that episode soon. But right now, before we talk about actually getting into the budget, I wanna talk about another word that people love to hate other than budget. And that word is accountability.

[00:02:54] Like how I was talking about how influences come to be seen as a negative word. [00:03:00] often accountability has a negative connotation to people as well. It's really not a negative word. It's really not bad. It simply means taking responsibility or taking ownership of something. It has to do with owning something emotionally yourself.

[00:03:23] The truth is accountability only feels negative because a lot of times it's accompanied by either a threat of, or actual punishment in pain. I'm gonna hold you accountable. And because of that, you're fired that hurts and that's not.

[00:03:41] The only meaning or use of accountability. In fact, I would say that's not even really accountability. That's punishment. That's revenge. So let's talk about accountability and money single or [00:04:00] married. You have to figure out ways to build in account. you have to figure out ways of seeing if you're on track with your money we're gonna talk about a spending plan, which is a plan for your money, but it's all well and good to make a plan.

[00:04:19] If you don't hold yourself accountable to that plan, you'll never follow through. I know a lot of people that actually sit down, they say budgeting, doesn't work. Making, spending plans, doesn't work doing this stuff. Doesn't work because they sit down and they make this intricate plan and then they put it in a drawer and they don't ever look at it again.

[00:04:36] Yeah, that's not gonna work that's not really doing the process because you're not holding yourself accountable to that plan.

[00:04:46] Now I'll be honest if you're a married person sometimes, or if you're in a relationship and you have a partner of some sort, accountability comes a little easier sometimes because you have a [00:05:00] built in accountability partner. if you go out and you spend a lot of money and you come home, odds are really good that your partner your spouse is gonna look at you and gonna ask some questions, probably some pretty tough questions, but in a way that also makes it harder.

[00:05:21] because often now we're back to that accountability that comes with pain. We're back to somebody who perhaps brings up emotions or fights or arguments or anger. They bring up ways that you and they look at money differently, perhaps because of how you were raised or your history. It uncovers truths and values and priorities and how those can be different for two people.

[00:05:49] And it can often create a lot of friction for single people. It can often be harder, a different way. See for them, [00:06:00] they don't have that built in accountability partner for good or for bad. They actually have to be more deliberate than that and seek it out. They have to find a friend who is wiser with money.

[00:06:13] Who's willing to give them mentorship and advice and spend time with them on this topic. That's a whole nother challenge as a single person. Now, in both cases sometimes you can find outside help through a coach or a pastor or a counselor or a friend. Who can help provide some structure and rules to the conversation and allow for a more successful relationship or accountability situation.

[00:06:49] Oftentimes having that third person in a marriage or that second person. And for a single person who comes in from outside, they're not emotionally [00:07:00] connected to the money, the same way you are. And so they, they can see things that you can't see and they can say things that you can't say they can look at the situation and they can go.

[00:07:12] I understand you wanna go to Hawaii, but you really can't afford it.

[00:07:19] So accountability. Has to have some sort of structure when it comes to your money. If you are doing a spending plan and not reviewing it during the month. And I suggest at least weekly, if you're married, you sit down with your spouse. If you're single, you at least look at it yourself and. As often as you can, maybe twice a month, maybe once a month, you're actually doing it with your accountability partner and you look at the budget and those sorts of things.

[00:07:54] Sure. And you update your spending and you figure out are you on track and do you need to adjust anything as something [00:08:00] come up, but you also should be looking forward at things like your calendar, looking at your goals and your values and your priorities. you should be spending time weekly, holding yourself accountable to your money, to your time, to all of those things, to whether or not you're putting things in your life.

[00:08:25] That line up with your calling and your values. You should be thinking about what may be coming up in the future and planning. you should have a set time and place for this. I've found. If you don't put it on the calendar and make an appointment with yourself and hold yourself accountable to that appointment, then it's harder enough.

[00:08:48] Hold yourself accountable to money. It's real easy to constantly be putting it off till tomorrow until tomorrow never comes. It only takes 10 or [00:09:00] 15 minutes to do this, to have a cup of coffee with yourself, to have a glass of tea or a hot tea, or your beverage of choice. And take 15 minutes to look over your money in your life and begin to hold yourself accountable to.

[00:09:22] I'll have a short guide up at inspired stewardship.com/episode 15. And you could also sign up for our stewardship of treasures tips series there, which will have some tips towards this sort of budget meeting. And how to budget as well. We're gonna be covering that in a later episode, but I go into more depth and provide some forms as part of that tip series.

[00:09:50] So I encourage you to sign up over@inspiredstewardship.com slash episode 15. If you think that will help you out. In the [00:10:00] meantime, keep in mind, accountability is not a dirty word. It's something you have to build into your life. If you really wanna succeed with money. And honestly, if you really want to exceed, succeed with life, you've gotta build accountability in if you really want to succeed with life.

[00:10:18] So what I'd encourage you to do is set up on your calendar for the next three months. That weekly 15 minute accountability meeting with yourself or with your spouse or with your accountability partner, so that you can review and hold yourself accountable to how you're spending do this. And thank you for listening.

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