00:00:00 Welcome to tonight's Saturday night special with me talking with you about why your future you is not the superhero you think they are. I'm Darryl Lines, author of 18 to 80. I challenge you to invest in yourself, invest in others, develop your influence and impact the world by using your time, your talent and your treasures to live out your calling. Having the right behavior with your money is key to doing that. And one way to be inspired to do that is to listen to this the inspired stewardship podcast with my friend Scott Mater.
00:00:47 We're going to start eating right. We're gonna cut out sugar, even though the truth is that we've been trying to do that for three years. And instead, what we've discovered is that we just don't manage to complete that technique. We just don't transit to get it done. You know, this year we're gonna get our finances in order. We're gonna start doing a budget welcome. And thank you for joining us on the inspired stewardship podcast. If you truly desire to become the person who God wants you to be,
00:01:16 then you must learn to use your time your talent and your treasures for your true calling in the inspired Searchie podcast will learn to invest in yourself, invest in others and develop your influence so that you can impact the world In tonight's Saturday night special. I talk with you about ways you can achieve your future goals without depending on your future self. Just being a superhero, the power of understanding why willpower is not the key, and I'll give you instead a couple of key techniques that can help you with this instead,
00:02:00 no one area that a lot of folks need some help with is around the area of productivity. Getting not just Maur things done, but actually getting the right things done can be really, really tough. I've got a course called Productivity for your passion that's designed to help you do this. And then they hold you accountable and walk with you so that you can tailor productivity not just to be getting more done but actually getting the right things done. What's more, we take the approach of looking at your personality and how you actually look at things in the world and Taylor,
00:02:42 the productivity system to your personality, because the truth is. A lot of the systems that are out there are written really well for somebody with a particular personality type.
00:02:53 But if you have a different approach to things, they just don't work. But there's tools and techniques and approaches that you can take that will work for anyone,
00:03:02 and we help you do that and productivity for your passion. Check it out over at inspired stewardship dot com slash launch.
00:03:12 One of the mistakes that we make so much when we're thinking about getting things done, being more productive and working hard is that we depend upon our future self being a superhero.
00:03:26 You know, I don't know about you, but I've sat down sometimes and started making it to do list for tomorrow or the next day or next week,
00:03:34 and I put everything on it. I make a list that's way too long that no human being could possibly get done in the amount of time that's present on the schedule.
00:03:46 You know, I've got some techniques that I use now that keep me from doing that. But this was a common mistake that I made time after time after time after time.
00:03:55 Why? Because we look at our future self, and we think that our future self is so much better and more gifted than our current self.
00:04:05 Somehow tomorrow you'll get it all done. Somehow. Tomorrow you'll just power through and managed to get everything done on your way to long list,
00:04:16 even though today you struggled and weren't able to do that. Tomorrow it's gonna work because future self is so much better than present self.
00:04:26 And instead what we're really doing is sabotaging our future self were really cutting ourselves off a TTE the knees before we've ever even got the opportunity to do what it is that we need to do.
00:04:40 We've created a situation where future self is destined. Tofail, or future self, has to be some sort of miraculous superhero that's completely different than who you are today.
00:04:53 And I'll tell you, without putting some habits and some systems and some processes in place and without working on who you are and learning and building and growing future self is really just your present self in the future.
00:05:07 There's nothing that your future self conduce that your present self can't do unless you inject some things to change it see,
00:05:16 that's the key. You've got to take action today. Your present self has to do things to create a situation where your future self actually can get some things done.
00:05:26 You also have to stop sabotaging your future self. Think about it for a minute. How often have you set up a situation where your future self is destined to fail?
00:05:36 You've said yes, toe way too many things. You put way too many things on your list, and when you actually look at the amount of time it takes you in the amount of time you have available in a day,
00:05:45 it's not possible to get all of that done. We all do it. Instead, you have to understand a couple of techniques that I'm gonna share it the end of this session.
00:05:58 But let's talk a little bit first about what we generally do Normally. What we think is the solution to this is just too great to bear down and to get it all done to use willpower,
00:06:11 right? We're just gonna will ourselves through it. We're going to somehow or another make our willpower work.
00:06:18 Tomorrow we'll get home from work and we'll just manage to exercise for 30 minutes this time, even though for weeks I do instead,
00:06:27 what we've done is set down on the couch and binge Netflix for an hour. We're going to start eating right.
00:06:32 We're gonna cut out sugar, even though the truth is that we've been trying to do that for three years,
00:06:37 and instead what we've discovered is that we just don't manage to complete that technique. We just don't transits to get it done.
00:06:46 You know, this year we're going to get our finances in order. We're going to start doing a budget,
00:06:51 even though for the last two years, instead of getting it done. What we've done instead is actually never sit down and do it.
00:07:00 We've we've wasted that time of that energy by doing something else, like again binging Netflix for an hour.
00:07:07 You know, that's a common trap for a lot of us, and we think that will power is going to keep us from falling into that trap.
00:07:13 Well, just will ourselves to not do it will grin and bear it. And as I talked about on Tuesday,
00:07:20 the funny thing is that willpower first off is a finite resource. You run out of it. And so,
00:07:26 usually what happens is, by the time you get home in the afternoon, you've used it all up.
00:07:30 This is why you binge on ice cream at midnight and watch Netflix and do foolish things in the evening instead of actually doing the things that you planned,
00:07:41 tow, have and get done. Instead, it's recognizing to that willpower is not usually the key, even if you manage to will power your way through it for a little while.
00:07:54 Eventually you stumble and fall, and there's actually research that shows that willpower in your way through it actually hurts you in the long term,
00:08:04 it makes you less successful. It makes you less able to get things done. It makes you more tired,
00:08:10 more ill. It causes other issues in traps for you. So instead, I'm gonna give you two key techniques to inject into your life that actually work long term and begin to build up your ability to get some of these other things done.
00:08:30 And those air gratitude and accountability. The funny thing is gratitude. At first glance, sounds like Wait,
00:08:37 what does that have to do with getting my budget done? What does that have to do with getting my money in order?
00:08:42 What does that have to do with eating right? What does that have to do with getting in shape?
00:08:46 I mean, being thankful for things doesn't help me do those things. But the funny thing is that research shows that it actually does.
00:08:54 Having gratitude, looking and being thankful for those things that actually are good in your life actually spills over and makes you more likely to get things done.
00:09:09 It makes you more likely to stick to your habits. It makes you more likely to continue to work on things even when you're tired,
00:09:17 even when you're sick, even when you're frustrated. And the funny thing is here, when I say gratitude,
00:09:22 one of the things that we tend to do is we tend to focus on the same two or three or four big things in our life that we're thankful for.
00:09:29 Four. But here I'm asking you, I'm challenging you to look deeper than that toe look broader than that toe.
00:09:35 Look for the little things that also you are grateful for. This is why one of the things I do is I have people do a Gratitude journal,
00:09:43 where they write down three things that they were thankful for for today, and they do that for 30 days in a row.
00:09:49 But here's the twist. You're not allowed to repeat it. Anything that you put on Monday, you can't write down.
00:09:55 Also on Tuesday. Anything you put on Tuesday you can't write down on Wednesday and so on. You're never allowed to repeat.
00:10:02 So for 30 days it's three things a day, with everything being different. That means you find 90 things that you're grateful for in a month.
00:10:14 And the truth is, there's way more than that that you should be able to identify in your life,
00:10:20 even if there's trouble, even if there's things going wrong, even if your life feels really bad right now,
00:10:25 Believe it or not, there's way more things than that that you can identify and find and be grateful for.
00:10:33 The second technique is the technique of accountability. Now, obviously is a coach. That's one of the things that I do is hold people accountable to their goals and help them build systems and processes to stick to it.
00:10:45 But accountability here doesn't have to be hiring a coach. It can even be having accountability of a buddy,
00:10:53 a friend, someone in your circle who you call and say whether or not you got done that evening,
00:10:59 what you were supposed to get, do do what you said you would do. It could be somebody who you check in with periodically to make sure that you're on track with your goals.
00:11:09 It can even be public accountability where you post that you're going to do something and then you post whether or not you actually completed the task that you said.
00:11:19 There's all different ways you can inject accountability into your life. And the funny thing is, a lot of it has to do with how you're wired as to what works.
00:11:27 There are some people that public accountability works better and there are others. Were private accountability works best. Obviously,
00:11:34 I think coaching works well, in part because it can give you either it can give you public and private accountability.
00:11:41 Plus, the coach can help you actually inject systems and processes that work, but in any case, having some sort of accountability built into your your process,
00:11:53 built into what you're trying to achieve helps you way more than willpower. The research shows that accountability is a tool is actually one of the more successful methodologies that people can use for meeting their goals.
00:12:09 So if you inject these two together, if you find ways to find gratitude that builds that muscle and makes you more likely to follow through.
00:12:19 And then if you also inject accountability as a tool, then you'll discover that you're really about 80 to 90% more likely to actually follow through and complete whatever goals you have set for yourself.
00:12:34 Thanks for listening. Thanks so much for listening to the inspired stewardship Podcast. As a subscriber and listener,
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00:00:00 Welcome to tonight's Saturday night special with R. J. Jackson, the courage maker, As we talk about courage here on the inspired stewardship podcast. I'm R. J. Jackson, the courage giver. I encourage you to have the courage you need to live your calling, and one way to be inspired to do that is so. Listen to this. The inspired Stewardship podcast with my friend Scott Maderer believing is key because even the Bible tells us that without faith is just impossible. So believing is the key,
00:00:52 and I do want to hear it's not so much what other people say to you. It's what you say t your self Welcome and thank you for joining us on the inspired stewardship podcast. If you truly desire to become the person who God wants you to be, then you must learn to use your time, your talent and your treasures for your true calling in the inspired stewardship Podcast will learn to invest in yourself, invest in others and develop your influence so that you can impact the world. In tonight's 23rd episode of the Saturday Night special,
00:01:41 Argie Jackson and I talk about courage and the journey you take thorns. R J share some of her tips about writing and speaking, and she shares her personal journey and how she overcame it to become an international speak. Oh, and best selling only to no one area that a lot of folks need some help with is around the area of productivity. Getting not just Maur things done, but actually getting the right things done can be really, really tough. I've got a course called Productivity for your passion that's designed to help you do this.
00:02:30 And then they hold you accountable and walk with you so that you can tailor productivity not just to be getting more done but actually getting the right things done. What's more, we take the approach of looking at your personality and how you actually look at things in the world and Taylor the productivity system to your personality. Because the truth is, a lot of the systems that are out there are written really well for somebody with a particular personality type. But if you have a different approach to things, they just don't work.
00:03:04 But there's tools and techniques and approaches that you can take that will work for anyone and we help you do that and productivity for your passion. Check it out over an inspired stewardship dot com slash launch. Health is a state of body, and wellness is a state of being. If you woke up this morning hesitant to get out of bed, unable to find anything to wear exhausted from the day before and simply needing a breakthrough before you break down, then this episode is the right place for you to be listening.
00:03:40 And R. J is honored that you're here and listening to us today as an international leader. Speaker Arthur and confidence coach R. J. Jackson, who has traveled the world for over 20 years, inspiring others to fulfill their life's purpose, is here to fill our cup with courage, to stir our soul with confidence and to deliver a dose of wellness designed to create a blend of transformation in our home and work. R. J. Jackson is an international leader who works to inspire others to fulfill their life's purpose.
00:04:17 R J Works is a speaker Arthur consultant and personal development coach, fulfilling her own purpose of being a breath of fresh air to everyone she meets, noticed the courage giver R J delivers a message on courage, vision, confidence and leadership saying toe all of you, you don't have to live where you were dying and you don't have to die where you're living. Welcome to the show, R. J Oh, Scott is such a pleasure to be here, and you're absolutely right. I'm so honored that everyone has taken the time out to allow us to impart courage to their heart and remind them just as you say,
00:04:59 they don't have to live with her dying. And they certainly don't have to die where they're living. And you know that that message that that phrase there at the end is is one that I think a lot of people need to hear today. So R J would you share how your own life has led you to understand and deliver this message to others? That's actually what I wake up for every day to use my life as a mirror to remind women in particularly you have to die there. I know life is happening and I'm definitely a witness in my life is a testament of life happening.
00:05:42 I don't know where to begin, but let me start where my journey almost ended permanently. And that was recently when I was involved in a life threatening car accident which left me unable to walk,
00:06:00 unable to talk, recovering from a brain injury and depending on nah, just God. But people like never before.
00:06:12 And as I laid in my bed got, like, just wondering. My God, I know you spared my life for good.
00:06:23 I convey rarely talk. I can't even walk. What wouldn't want? Like, why am I still here as literally ill?
00:06:33 Not just like physically ill of dying, but spiritually, emotionally. Don't dare leave out financially, e.
00:06:45 I felt like it was over. Yeah, but it wasn't until I found the courage to ask God.
00:06:56 What did you want from me in this moment? Forget about the fact that I traveled all over the world speaking.
00:07:02 Forget about the lives that I had touched. I'm made here on my bed feeling like I'm dying and I just needed to know What do you want now?
00:07:12 Right now we are and clears a day. I heard him say, I want you to keep living because there really are people dying to live and they are in worse shape and even better shape than you are.
00:07:28 But they're ready to quit and give up. You know, that's one of the things I think is interesting.
00:07:34 You mentioned they're in worse shape or better shape than you. You know, I think a lot of times when we when we have these life changing moments,
00:07:43 you know, one of the realization is that comes out of it is it's not necessarily about quote. We're better off a reverse off than anyone else.
00:07:50 It's about what we do with it. Um, And you know, you're talking about that with that message that you received.
00:07:59 Absolutely. Because life this 10% of what happens to us, but 90 of how we respond to it.
00:08:08 Right? And I'm about to. Scott. But I have some days where I didn't respond too well and I didn't work too well for me.
00:08:15 Oh, well, yeah, yeah, yeah. Basically, if you're older than 12 that's true. And if you're 12 it's definitely true.
00:08:32 There's a middle school teacher for years, so trust me, I understand. Yeah, we Oh, yeah.
00:08:38 It's funny how it but that is true. It's how we respond to it. And yet, obviously,
00:08:43 That's also if if that was easy, you know that we wouldn't have the problem. But there's days that we don't respond Well,
00:08:52 you know, if you have a hard time believing that what we're talking about right now that this message,
00:08:56 this idea of, you know, you don't have to live where you're dying, that it's about your response.
00:09:02 If you're having a hard time believing that this is true and that this applies to you than this may help R.
00:09:08 J. I know, you know, as the speaker, as a speaker, one of your names is the courage giver.
00:09:14 Would you share what you would say to that person listening right now That just doesn't believe that this actually applies to them?
00:09:22 You know, the first thing I want to say is that you're not human. You're not hearing this by accident.
00:09:30 The very fact that you're listening and you're here is on purpose, and there's a reason why you need to hear this.
00:09:39 And maybe it's to encourage your heart to remind you that guy hasn't forgotten about you. And yes, this message is for you.
00:09:50 And believing is the key, because even the Bible tells us that without fate is just impossible. So believing is the key and and I do want to hear,
00:10:05 especially as I am still recovering from a brain injury. I've learned this during my recovery is not so much what other people say to you.
00:10:17 It's what you say to yourself that your brain is going to work with most. So what? I want to think of those who are listening.
00:10:26 I can tell you till I'm blue in the face. This message is for you and it matters for you.
00:10:35 But believing that it's for you and telling yourself that it applies to you and that you can do this is way more important.
00:10:46 So I want you to deem. I want to take and being what's already been being true that you are worthy.
00:10:56 This message is for you because you are worth being chosen your worth being fought for and your workers being died for and got sent his son to die for you so that you don't have to live with dying.
00:11:13 You don't have to die where you're living, but you can have life and that more abundantly. And that's my friend.
00:11:22 What God has for you going back to the beginning of that. One of the things that she said was that those voices that we have inside ourselves,
00:11:32 um and I think for a lot of us the voice that we have that speaking inside her head right now is is very,
00:11:40 very loud. And at least most of the people I know don't tell me that that voice says very nice things.
00:11:49 So do you have any advice for folks? Were that that internal voices speaking that message right now against believing that this gift is for us against believing that this and what we can do to begin toe change that internal voice?
00:12:07 Oh, that's really a great question. And I do want to say to encourage everyone change is a process.
00:12:15 So even if I give you some information that is guaranteed to cost transformation, don't be overnight. And that's God.
00:12:25 There's something supernatural that it's just gonna happen. You got him as they say. Be in it to win it.
00:12:33 Then you gotta practice, baby. So here's where you start on first base. You start with what you're putting in your heart,
00:12:43 your mind and your soul. So what are you watching on television. What are you left turning to?
00:12:50 Who are you hanging around and what are they saying? Because those are typically the things you're gonna say you're gonna repeat and you're gonna believe.
00:13:01 So you gotta watch that stuff. You know, the Bible says, watch out for those dogs. Those are those people that have dogged gun it.
00:13:11 They'll have nothing positive to say. So practice practice. Seeking to yourself reading positive literature, watching positive shows.
00:13:23 Listeningto positive podcasts such as this one every week practice the the phrase that you said It's a process that I I can almost guarantee you that those folks that have been listening to the show for more than a couple of episodes immediately said to themselves,
00:13:41 You mean it's a process, not an event, because they've heard us heard me say that about three million times on the spot.
00:13:47 Gas, Uh, s Oh, that's that's awesome that you use that same language, so it's got say it until they get it.
00:13:57 But that's why I keep saying it. I you know, and I'll tell you the same thing. I've told many,
00:14:02 many of my listeners as well. Part of the time a lot of times what I'm doing an episode,
00:14:06 and I'm saying something for the 12th time. It's because I still need to hear it, you know?
00:14:12 And I figure if I still need to hear that everybody else us too, right? Oh, yeah.
00:14:17 Oh, yes. You know, because even if those even again, you're the courage giver, you go out,
00:14:24 it's be courage to others. And you said it earlier. There's still days where that's hard for you.
00:14:29 Um, you know it just because just because you do it doesn't mean the journey's over. The journey is not over yet.
00:14:36 You're still growing. Absolutely. I often tell people when I am speaking, I'm really talking to myself,
00:14:42 and I'm giving them permission to listen right? Yep. Do the same thing. Uh, R J as well is speaking.
00:14:53 I know that another way that folks can tune in and listen to this is you have a Siri's of books where you've shared your message of courage as well.
00:15:03 And I know that a lot of people will tell you that they have a book inside themselves. You know,
00:15:08 You hear these stats that almost 80% of people say that they want to write a book. They have an idea for a book.
00:15:16 But of course, most of us never actually sit down and write it. So would you share a little bit about how you took the journey towards becoming a best selling Arthur and and what we can learn from this And honestly,
00:15:30 Scott, I didn't seek to become a best selling author. I honestly believe me. When I tell you this.
00:15:40 I don't even like writing. I always tell people what I used to tell people. I don't see it anymore,
00:15:48 but I used to tell people, I'm a speaker. I am not a writer, but nobody believes me.
00:15:55 And they would have told you, You're a great writer, are gay and I'm like, Well, I'll not tell him.
00:16:00 I felt that because I don't want to write. I don't like Whiting. And so what I thought to do was to share.
00:16:09 My story is, everybody has a story, and what I used to do is share my story based on how somebody else shared their stories or compare my stories to somebody else's story.
00:16:28 My goal was to share my story to give God glory and people hope, and that's what I set out to do,
00:16:36 and it's setting out to do that. I partner with other women who had the same vision we shared.
00:16:43 Our stories were told about our journey. We told about our mistakes. We were authentic. We became a mirror to other women to say,
00:16:53 See yourself because I get it. I understand. And then for me, I decided it was important for me to do.
00:17:02 A guy told me to do and that it be a breath of fresh air and a glimpse of the living God for people.
00:17:08 And I won't. Even though I didn't like the right and it wasn't easy, there was a battle toe,
00:17:15 right? But obedience is what I wrote out off and believe it or not, Scott, I told you I was laying in that bed.
00:17:24 That was one of the things God told me to do. Was right again, and I can't even think of the word.
00:17:31 Can't even say words properly. What? Oh, hey Lord and I wrote and that when I became after four books,
00:17:40 I became a best selling author again, out of obedience. So as a coach and as a speaker.
00:17:51 You've obviously had a lot of different speaking opportunities, both nationally and internationally. And you know, when people hear that kind of like what you're just now talking about with writing Ah,
00:18:03 lot of folks think to themselves. Wow, I would love to be able to speak internationally, speak nationally,
00:18:10 speak from the stage. And of course, there's other folks right now that heard that and the got fear in the pit of your stomach.
00:18:16 And they're beginning to dread even just the idea of speaking in public. Would you share a little bit about how this kind of response this this fear response to something like public speaking or other fears?
00:18:32 And how kind of what you were talking about earlier, our response to that fear, how that can become part of our journey and part of our development towards courage?
00:18:43 Yeah, so you mean talk about that 90% response to that 10% of what happens to us that says,
00:18:51 Oh, my gosh, If I go out there and speak, I'm gonna die, right? Exactly.
00:18:59 Karelian, they're gonna get me. It's like, Well, I've never sea lions and right And and here's the thing most people literally would rather die than get in front of somebody.
00:19:14 And speech is very intimidating for them. And when it comes the fear, I like to believe that fear is really running from something that's not even after you.
00:19:26 It's like being in the house that night, and the house starts creaking and shifting, and then all of a sudden we start questioning.
00:19:33 Who's in here? I'm like, Who's in here? Nobody in here, you know, that's dear and fear will either drive you towards something or it won't drain you and keep you from something round,
00:19:50 Lago Emerson said. Fear that the more people than anything in the world and there are so many things people are afraid of the great Some people are afraid to go out of their house.
00:20:05 Did you know that research says that the number one fear that Americans has is the fear of going to the dentist?
00:20:13 No. Just imagine that Scott, nobody went to the dentist because they were afraid. Now I don't imagine that that's not a good picture right there,
00:20:23 Theo. Reason why put that out there is because with public speaking being the number one here, we either are gonna decide to let that be a driver's toe,
00:20:36 live life on purpose and live out our destiny at a courage which is being afraid. But going in Pau or we're gonna let it drain us,
00:20:48 and we're gonna die where we're living. We have a toy. 90% of how he responds is what it's about.
00:21:01 I know. Personally, until I used my courage, I had to step out on stage when I finally realized I am missing out on a lot of great things because I'm afraid.
00:21:17 And when I realized that I'm like No, wait, okay, I'm gonna do it anyway. Somewhere.
00:21:22 The things I did I went declining. Was declining. Totally. Where did you go? Zip lining over Niagara Falls.
00:21:32 Oh, wow. Okay, listen, if you're going to get out there, get out there, Right.
00:21:38 And here's what I what I discovered after it was over the deep end with that one you really wasn't like I was kind of expecting,
00:21:48 like something low, but no. Over Niagara Falls, Niagara Bomber way went zip lining down the blue mountains in Jamaica.
00:21:57 So that was the night falls would be a bit much. Wow, that that was beautiful. Actually,
00:22:05 it was a really neat way to see the mountain. You actually kept your eyes open? No. Yeah,
00:22:12 it was Yeah, I did. And I am afraid of heights. I'm actually very nervous around heights,
00:22:17 but I managed to keep my eyes open, so Oh, my gosh. Well, good for you.
00:22:21 Because I can't say I kept my eyes open, but I can't say zip lining. And that was the goal for me not to keep my eyes open,
00:22:30 but to say I did it and you survived. TRIBE survive. And that's what I want to tell you.
00:22:38 Here's what I learned what we typically learn. And that was the important question. You asked. What did I learn from it?
00:22:44 Here's what I learned is what we typically steel is we're gonna die. But what I learned is I didn't die,
00:22:52 did I? And usually we don't. But that's what we're afraid of. But we we experienced so much joy.
00:23:02 So many stories. We get to tell our Children and our grandchildren when we step out by faith by using our courage and talent.
00:23:10 Beer? No, not today. I'm going anyway. And I think a lot of times for, you know,
00:23:16 back to It's a process, not an event, even there. It's a process, not an event.
00:23:21 You went zip lining. You didn't open your eyes. Well, maybe next time you do something really exciting like that,
00:23:26 you will open your eyes. You don't know. Ah, but at least you know you've taken that first step already by taking action and doing doing something that you were afraid of.
00:23:38 Absolutely. You know, when we talk about public speaking is just as I mentioned, there are some people,
00:23:46 like we were just talking about that. That may be a big fear of them. And then there's other folks that that's actually a goal that they have.
00:23:52 You know, they're in business. Maybe they're there. Coach that got a book or there wanting to get out there and share a message with others in a way that's effective in a way that really communicates and makes an impact on other people.
00:24:07 They feel the same calling like you're talking about of God, saying to them, You need to get out there and tell your story,
00:24:14 but they're afraid of not doing it well. As someone who's done speaking for years, and years now.
00:24:21 Do you have any tips for others on how to speak effectively so that we can really make an impact?
00:24:29 And one of the ways that I actually do that is through Webinars as well as my speak with confidence classes that I offer primarily through Women's Business Center and other organizations.
00:24:41 And here's what I say most whether you're a speaker, you're aspiring speaker. You want to speak for your business.
00:24:51 You have to talk in front of people. Here's my number. One suggestion. Beak less and listen more.
00:25:04 It's important as a speaker at spire and speaker, someone who sharing their business with other people, that we listen to the people we're serving.
00:25:15 We know the needs of the audience. It's important that were authentic, that we understand. It's not about us.
00:25:26 People don't care how much we know they want to know. As Maya, Angela says, how much we care,
00:25:35 and they want to see that they can relate to us and we can relate with them. So as you listen,
00:25:44 you deny the urge to impress people, but you make it important. Toe bless people. I like that phrase.
00:25:56 So as we wrap up today. One question that I like to ask everyone is this. You know,
00:26:02 the show has inspired stewardship. I talk all the time about stewardship. And yet, as I've been talking about it and talking to others about it,
00:26:10 I've discovered that that word means a lot of different things to a lot of different people. So kind of is you were just talking about with that idea of listening toe others R J.
00:26:20 Would you share what stewardship means to you and how that has impacted your life? At first I used to when I didn't know no better,
00:26:30 I would say, uh, you think that your ship was about money, but to our ship is not just about money,
00:26:39 it's about everything. Stewardship is not even a way of life. For me, stewardship is life. It's growing,
00:26:51 it's serving. It's giving is growing and God serving others. And giving our best whenever we have an opportunity to give by using God's resource is wisely that Stuart slipped.
00:27:10 To me, it's life. And how has that belief? How is that understanding as it's grown over time?
00:27:18 How has that impacted your life and what you do? I can sum that up with a quote from Zig Ziglar,
00:27:27 he says you can have anything in life you want if you just willing to help other people get what they want.
00:27:37 And it helped me Scott, to realize that life is not just about R. J. And I love the tater trips.
00:27:46 But I'm not all that in a bag of chips. And I always tell people, even if you think you're all that and a bag of chips,
00:27:58 even chips taste better with a little bit of dip. So is it healthy? Realize we need people to survive and that when I get up in the morning,
00:28:10 if I'm just getting up for meeting my four and no whore is gonna be a boring day, but I want all that guy has for me.
00:28:19 So I gotta put people first and I got a C P. So the weak God sees people, which means everybody matters.
00:28:29 And that is how it has helped me live my life fully by giving my life away to remind women in particularly they don't have to live where they're dying and they don't have to die.
00:28:44 We're there living. You confined R J at her home base over it the courage giver dot com. She's also on Twitter as the courage giver,
00:28:56 and over on Lincoln is R. J. Jackson, the courage giver. All, of course, have links to all of that over in the show notes.
00:29:04 And you could reach out to her and maybe have her comments speak to your next event about courage and the impact it makes on your life.
00:29:13 R. J. Is there anything else you'd like to share with the listers first? I'd like to say,
00:29:18 Scott, thank you for what you do and who you are and inviting me to share with your listening audience.
00:29:26 Those of you who are listening you are not here by accident. God has a plan for your life.
00:29:33 And there was something today that perhaps resonated in your heart. Don't let that go to the wayside. Water it and ask God toe.
00:29:45 Show you what he wants you to do because there are people, believe it or not, who are waiting on you to do your part so that they can do their part.
00:30:01 Thanks so much for listening to the inspired stewardship podcast. As a subscriber and listener, we challenge you to not just sit back and passively listen,
00:30:12 but act on what you've heard and find a way toe Live your calling. If you enjoyed this episode,
00:30:20 please, please do us a favor. Go over to inspired stewardship dot com slash iTunes rate all one word iTunes rate.
00:30:33 It'll take you through how to leave a rating and review and how to make sure you're subscribe to the podcast so that you can get every episode as it comes out in your feet until next time investor time,
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00:00:00 Welcome to tonight's Saturday night special where we're going to talk about having a word of the year. Yeah, I'm Robert Farrington from the college investor dot com. I encourage you to be inspired to become a better Steward through financial wisdom by listening to this show the inspired stewardship podcast with my friend Scott Maderer. Look at those goals, and I'm looking for themes. I'm looking for characteristics. I'm looking for things that I are indicated in there. Do the goals indicate an area that's missing in my life? Do they indicate an area where I'm trying to grow or expand something in my life?
00:00:51 Do they indicate an area where I'm trying to inject sort of a new emotion or a new feeling? Welcome. And thank you for joining us on the inspired stewardship. Podcasts. If you truly desire to become the person who God wants you to be, then you must learn to use your time, your talent and your treasures for your true calling in. The inspired Stewardship podcast will learn to invest in yourself, invest in others and develop your influence so that you impact in tonight's Saturday night special. I talk with you about why having a word of the year is a great practice to have.
00:01:34 How doing this can help you filter your goals, your opportunities and your activities for the year and why choosing that word is important and how you can do it. And I'll also share with you my word for 2020. Now One area that a lot of folks need some help with is around the area of productivity, getting not just more things done, but actually getting the right things done can be really, really tough.
00:02:06 I've got a course called Productivity for your passion that's designed to help you do this. And then they hold you accountable and walk with you so that you can tailor productivity not just to be getting more done but actually getting the right things done.
00:02:24 What's more, we take the approach of looking at your personality and how you actually look at things in the world and Taylor the productivity system to your personality.
00:02:35 Because the truth is, a lot of the systems that are out there are written really well for somebody with a particular personality type.
00:02:42 But if you have a different approach to things, they just don't work But there's tools and techniques and approaches that you can take that will work for anyone,
00:02:52 and we help you do that and productivity for your passion. Check it out over on inspired stewardship dot com slash launch.
00:03:02 So you've probably seen a few posts this week about people announcing their word of the year for 2020. Or maybe they reflected on how 2019 connected to the word they chose last year.
00:03:17 There's, Ah, book about choosing a word of the year, and at first glance it seems kind of intimidating to try to think about picking a single word That's gonna be your focus for the entire year.
00:03:31 But I've been doing this for the last four or five years now, and I've found great power in it.
00:03:38 But I will also tell you that there are some things that you need to know and understand to make this effective.
00:03:46 You know what a lot of people will do is they kind of choose their word of the year because everyone else is doing it and so they'll have a word and they announce it.
00:03:55 But they don't actually do anything with that word. The word doesn't affect their life. The word doesn't affect them in terms of what they're doing in that year or not doing in that year.
00:04:08 Instead, they just kind of pick it and then forget it and they move on and it becomes just like setting an ineffective New Year's resolution or any of the other things we've been talking about this week.
00:04:19 It just becomes another little activity that you do and you share because everyone else does it, and that isn't the way to use it.
00:04:30 Instead, if you are doing this, if you are trying to come up with a theme for your year that you can sum up in one single word,
00:04:40 you need to go about it and be more effective in both choosing it. And then what you do with it after you choose it.
00:04:50 See the power of having your entire focus for the year summed up in one word is that you can keep that word in front of you all year long.
00:05:02 You can put that word on your lock screen on your phone. You can put that word on a big poster in front of you wherever you work.
00:05:10 You can post it in front of you, you know, on your car dashboard. You can put it as your screen saver on your computer,
00:05:18 and maybe is the desktop image on your computer. You can put the word in front of you all year long,
00:05:27 and then you can use that theme to filter the goals that you set for this year. Look and see if the goals that you've said have an alignment with that word.
00:05:40 Look for the opportunities that come up when a new opportunity comes in front of you. We often get distracted and go towards the shiny object because something comes along and it sounds cool.
00:05:50 It sounds neat. It sounds fun, but isn't in alignment with your theme with your focus for this year.
00:05:58 If you've chosen a word, then very quickly you can bounce that opportunity against that word and say, Does it move me in that direction?
00:06:07 The activities that you're doing What are you adding to your calendar? What are you adding to your to do list?
00:06:13 Are those activities in alignment with growing in the direction that that word indicates? The truth is, if you're not using the word as a filter for everything else,
00:06:32 then it just becomes a cute activity that you do. It can be very important and very effective. Or it could just be one more cute little thing that you do this year.
00:06:47 So for me, I use that word. I trying to look back. I actually do the the review of last year,
00:06:53 which we've talked about over the last few weeks and then I do a planning session where I set goals for the year.
00:07:01 Then I look at those goals and I'm looking for themes. I'm looking for characteristics. I'm looking for things that I are indicated in there.
00:07:13 Do the goals indicate an area that's missing in my life? Do they indicate an area where I'm trying to grow or expand something in my life?
00:07:21 Do they indicate an area where I'm trying to inject sort of a new emotion or a new feeling? I tried to reflect on the pattern that is present in those goals and then I pray and I reflect and I spend some time on it and I I often will generate list after list of words and I will even look up.
00:07:45 Sometimes you confined list of you know, 100 or more words if you just search for him. Suggestions for your word of the year and what not and you'll find list that have emotional words,
00:07:58 things like bravery and courage and generosity. And you'll find things that have adventuresome words. Explorer, Fearless.
00:08:12 And you'll find things that talk about characteristics. Integrity hopeful. You'll find things that are focused on more tangible goals,
00:08:22 like learn or grow for me as I've done that last year. In fact, my word of the year for 2019 was grow because I was focused on growing my business,
00:08:34 and I was focused on growing what I was doing around myself. I wasn't focused on learning that was my word for 2018.
00:08:43 Instead, I was focused on taking what I already knew and growing it, making it Maur that it was before and this year for me,
00:08:54 2020. This year's focus for me is execute. You know, there's actually AH, long list of things that I've had floating around for several months that I know I need to do.
00:09:07 I know they would help my business. I know they would help me personally. I know they would help my family relationships,
00:09:14 and they came back this year and made it into my goals for 2020. And as I reflect on that theme,
00:09:22 the theme this year is about following through the theme. This year for me is about executing on these goals that I've had for a while and known I needed to do,
00:09:32 but I've just been letting them go. I'm not focused on them because things are working really well. It's the exact same stuff that I talk to you about on this podcast.
00:09:43 How sometimes the good can be the enemy of the great, because when things were going well, it's often the hardest time to do the changes that you really need to do.
00:09:55 And so for me, this year is all about execution. I'm looking for opportunities that allow me to execute.
00:10:01 I'm looking for things within my business that allow me to execute. I'm looking for things of my relationships that allows me toe execute,
00:10:10 not as in tow, to kill the people that I'm in a relationship with, but actually execute is in to take those relationships deeper and further than they went before and in all ways that becomes the theme.
00:10:23 If an opportunity comes along and it's not moving towards execution of one of these big goals that are set,
00:10:29 then it's not really an opportunity that I need to focus on for 2020. And that's why the word becomes important.
00:10:35 It's what you do after you pick the word how you use that word to filter and to drive what you do all year long to drive.
00:10:45 What you say yes to, but even Maur to drive what you say no to cause more often than not,
00:10:52 what really keeps you back isn't what you're saying yes to. It's what you fail to say no to.
00:11:01 So that's what we need to do this year. If you're picking a word, make sure you don't just pick it and set it up on a shelf.
00:11:07 But make sure you keep it front and so center all year long. And use that as a filter for your goals,
00:11:14 your opportunities and your activities and how you're doing them all year long and make 2020 the best year ever.
00:11:23 Thanks for listening. Thanks so much for listening to the inspired stewardship podcast as a subscriber and listener. We challenge you to not just sit back and passively listen.
00:11:40 But act on what you've heard and find a way to live your calling. If you enjoyed this episode,
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I've gotta horse called productivity for your passion that's designed to help you do this and that hold you accountable and walk with you so that you can tailor productivity not just to be.

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Getting more done,

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actually getting the right things done what's more we take the approach of looking at your personality and how you actually look at things in the world and taylor the productivity system.

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Your personality has the truth is a lot of the systems that are out there reading really well for somebody with a particular personality type you have a different approach to things that just don't work.

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But there is tools and techniques and approaches that you can take that will work for anyone and we help you do that and productivity for your passion check it out over and inspired stewardship dot com slash launch.

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Today is saturday night special i just wanted to take a few minutes and first off thank everybody for listening this year.

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I've been doing the podcast for almost two years now and we've had more downloads this year war new listeners a lot of growth

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i'm really excited to see more people come on board and asked today i've got a couple of things that i want to ask you and if you're listening to that is what you been a long time leicester or this is your first time to listen,

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i'd like to ask you for a couple of a couple of favors,

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number one if you could send me an email to scott and inspired stewardship dot com with the names of folks that you would like to hear the show,

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let me be clear im not just talking big name folks in fact i kinda wanna stay away from some of the biggest names.

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I want to talk to people who have the unique story to tell something where they got something to share about stewardship and how it impacted their life

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something interesting that gotham diner they were they parked about experienced in their life maybe that's actually you

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maybe you would be the perfect guest to come on the show or maybe you know somebody in your close circle of family and friends who will be the perfect

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guess the cab on my show.

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If so reach out to me send me an email scott and inspired stewardship dot com and let me know who that is and get me their contact information and all reach out to him and set up a time to talk to him about the possibility of being on the show.

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And that same email if you got topics that perhaps i have it covered i have it covered if there something that you'd like to hear me either talk about

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you are the sole of episodes or cover is a special episode and apps

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kinda like i'm doing this with a series on i'm doing the annual review if there's topics around your time your talent and your treasures that you'd like me to un pack and i'm deep into you share those topics with me,

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in that same email scott inspired stewardship dot com you can let me know who and you can let me know what or what are the other,

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and then the next thing is i wanted to remind you that i got that productivity course you heard about it at the beginning of the show if you send and one of the things that i think a lot of folks set a new year's resolution about is about.

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Getting productive finding out what you're supposed to be doing and getting the right things done if you'd like help with that

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i am like you to check out my productivity courses over at inspired stewardship dot com slash launch,

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i'd love to help you have the best year you could ever have what it comes around managing your time this year and then lastly.

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Thanks for listening.

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