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Episode 500: Is it OUR Money or My Money?

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Today's episode is focused on shifting from my to our...

In today’s episode about investing in yourself through stewarding your treasures, I talk with you about why ours versus mine is so important when you are talking about the money.  I share why the difference it makes in your relationship when you really believe this.  I also talk with you about the key to moving your mind that direction.

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Thanks for joining me on episode five hundred of the inspired stewardship podcast.

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What are the reasons that working with the coach can help because part of what i can do is ask the hard questions and make sure that,

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everyone needs are being taking care of me because see in that situation if you can't afford to cover both of those can you need to cover both the banana lesser,

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i need to find a way to maybe do their hair every other month and a golf game every other month instead of every month.

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Please episode about investing in yourself to your treasurer i talk with you about why are vs mine is so important.

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The difference it makes when you really believe this and the key to moving your mind in this direction.

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Mine versus ours and i work with a lot of couples when it comes to money.

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And the interesting thing is there is a really cite all.

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Raise that i hear what people were talking about money it's really shes simple as are you thinking of money is ours,

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where is mine.

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You know when you get married and you joined together your living together and you combined your finances and interesting thing happens,

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often one person earns a little bit more money than the other folks are working one person make two hundred fifty thousand four hundred thousand

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are seventy thousand and the other with martin makes much less than that.

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Or sometimes one parent is a stay at home parent and the other one is her name and income.

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Whatever it is there's often this feeling of i earning that money this is my money that i bring into the relationship and we decide what to do with that.

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That freezing is really interesting because if you truly joined together into a relationship truly partner's,

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ben even if you are the one out there running the money you are earning our money not my money.

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When will my wife is a stay at home mom for a few years and i was out burning n coming the corporate world,

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set what was interesting is that was still our money,

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sure i got the paycheck what was our money we set down together and planned what we're going to do with our money.

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How we were to use it to do the things we agree most important for us.

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R us vs mine is on fire lol distinction,

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when it comes to coming together and communicating well and joining together and finding your priorities in your values that you can't win with money it's about getting your mind right with money.

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You know we always have a little bit more budget that just kind of fun money that's are walking around money she has some on her that i carry my wallet and that money is the money that we use to kinda

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basically be just whatever we want,

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it's a very small percentage of the overall budget but everything else that we put into the budget,

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is our money and even that money to his and her fun money is our money because weve decided to do that.

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For a long time my wife actually carrying a little bit more fun money than i did,

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because she was often the one holly and the kids around and had to stop and grab a bite to eat she was also grabbing something for the for the side.

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And so just made sense for her to have more money my son even ask a question one time you said mom why is it that you carry more fun money than dad does but he's the one out earning the money,

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no answer is because,

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that's what made sense as well we agreed that was how we're dealing with our money together because i was the one earning the money but the money i was earning was our money together.

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It makes a huge difference when u really begin to believe this when you bring this into your heart solo you really believe it,

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send a lot of the fighting goes away because you begin to have discussions about what our shared values what our priorities what is it we want to do.

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There is a this immediate feeling of i have to protect myself from you have to protect my needs and make sure i get taken care of,

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because you're going to take care of yourself it immediately begins to difuser the competition some of the fighting some of the worry some of the fear.

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What it for a long time you haven't been living that way and it takes a while to reprogram your thinking it takes a while for the other partner to trust that you re programmed you thinking.

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But the truth is the only way to begin to make that shift in your mind set is too big into that way.

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Action is what creates belief

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it's me the rules that you have to follow first off you have to know longer use the phrase this is my money you have to begin to say,

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our money you have to be getting use the language that describes

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the money is are you have to sit down together and have a regular pattern of communication about money will you post look at it and you both get a vote and you both get a discussion,

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you have to spend some time together and unpack

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what are your priorities what are your share values and how are you gonna prioritize these together so that

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everyone's needs get taken care of you have to make sure that you put things in the family budget that at first glance maybe your just for one partner,

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would you still put them in there because you want to make sure everyone's needs are taken care of.

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If one of you wants to get their hair done is that in the budget of one of you want to play golf is that in the budget and if you can't afford to put both of those things and the budget didn't what are we gonna give you up what's more important.

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Are we gonna leave things in that are truly an alignment with our values.

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Because both of those maybe there's something you can do to reduce them.

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What is the discussion and sometimes it may even turn into a fight.

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This is one of the reasons that working with the coach can help because part of what i can do is ask the hard questions and make sure that,

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everyone's needs are being taken care of because see in that situation if you can't afford to cover both of those that you need to cover both of a banana lesser,

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level u need to find a way to maybe do,

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i hear every other month and a golf game every other month instead of every month.

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The difference is you got to be given to work together

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that's how you begin to make your mind move in that direction you begin to take the time to communicate you begin to take the time to look at the money together

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and the posts go out and execute that playing in the theater if either of you from that plant you gotta come back together and talk about it again.

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Regular communication and using the language.

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Have ours begins to change your beliefs thanks for listening.

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Yo are thanks so much for listening to the inspired stewardship.

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In today's episode, I talk with you about:

  • Why ours versus mine is so important...
  •  the difference it makes to really believe this...
  • The key to moving your mind that direction...
  • and more.....

If a person gets his attitude toward money straight, it will help straighten out almost every other area in his life. – Billy Graham

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Episode 499: Why You Have Problems…

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Join us today for an episode about the reason re-framing isn't positive thinking...

Today's episode is focused on why you need to fail forward with your problems...

In today’s episode about investing in yourself through stewarding your talent, I talk with you about what the problem really is when you have a problem.  I also share with you the difference between positive thinking and re-framing problems.  I also share why re-framing is a key to failing forward.

Join in on the Chat below.

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Thanks for joining me on episode four nine out the inspired stewardship podcast.

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I'm free is rice author of well actually i challenge you to invest in yourself invest in others develop your influence and impact the world are using your time your talent and your treasures to live your calling,

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having a right relationship with all of your gifts is nikita doing this way to be inspired to do that is to listen to this inspiring stewardship podcast with my friend scott made.

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Read the frustration the most shared in the problem and situation and i found something from it that i can take away that actually was positive and noticed that i turned into an action i didn't something i can learn.

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You for joining us in the inspired stewardship.

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If you truly desire to become the person who god wants you to be can you must learn to use your time your talent and your treasures for your true calling.

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Any inspired stewardship podcast learn to invest in yourself invest in others and develop your influence you can impact.

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Episode about investing in yourself first but your talent i talk with you about what the problem really is when you have a problem,

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the difference between positive thinking and re framing problems and winery framing is the key to feeling forward.

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Do you have problems really do you have problems and course the answer to that question is pretty much.

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For everyone at some level yes we all have things to go wrong in our lives we all have challenges that we son.

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You know the other positive thinking where we re framing we talk about opportunities instead of challenges you get told that alot of the business world where,

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it's not a problem it's it's an opportunity that comes along in andaz how you need to think about everything.

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Not true is there a lot of truth to that.

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That's part of what we're gonna talk about that it in this episode is this idea of what is the real problem when you have a problem.

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The truth is.

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When we have a problem when something is going wrong in our life when we are getting where we need to go when things are not going well.

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Yes the problem the thing it's not going well are the problem the way that we think about the problem.

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Often it's really not a problem that's the problem it's the problem.

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That's behind the problem the problem is our reaction and attitude are.

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Action that we take in response to the problem the problem sometimes is not the problem it's the problem behind the problem.

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Know before you go to far one of the things that immediately comes to mind when i start saying that is a lot of the.

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Positive thinking material that's out there they the idea that you know just stay positive backup what career everything will be better tomorrow

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you know the problems that come along your really just opportunities in the sky so you should you should go whenever a problem comes along because that's just a new opportunity for you to succeed.

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Just think positive everything will work out in the end you've heard it,

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you probably even done it u done the information and exercises you set down and put all the positive thoughts in the hopes that you would change your world.

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And nothing happened at all but there is a different way of looking at it sometimes it's not about just.

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Thinking positive it's not about just thinking things are gonna get better it's not about just dreaming the results and letting your brain visualize six s.

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Instead it's actually about re framing.

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Re framing is a little different than just positive thinking this isn't about just looking at the world and saying things should be better

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it's not looking at the world and saying you know it really shouldn't be this hard it's not looking at the world and saying everything is going wrong with my world and going down the road the route of making everything per minute pervasive

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m personal.

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Maybe i'm kirk and repeating the sites so it's not you that visualize positive or negative instead,

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re framing is about shifting your stinking about

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the situation it's about looking at the situation from a different point of view it help sis change the emotional tone and meaning of what's going on.

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We can't actually refreshed from a problem two a challenge

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what to do it's not just about thinking positive it's not just about saying how rare got a problem it's about actively taking on the role of pausing and reflecting and reviewing

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recognizing the emotion calling alex is this makes me angry yes this makes me frustrated yes this makes me afraid yes this hurts me,

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you need to acknowledge those feelings it's something that another person dead knowledge that the other person made you frustrated.

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Acknowledge that you're feeling the emotion of registration because of an action taken.

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But look at the situation and began to think instead,

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what is the lesson i can learn from this what is the thing that i need to take away from that what's going on in this situation,

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that isn't necessarily a positive what is it lease something that i can take away is the last step,

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what are the interesting experiences i had back in the day when i was a school teacher and this is a minor thing but it was a really big thing is right before school started we always have two or three days of what they called a and service and it inevitably some

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group from outside would come and and a black dress for several hours about some topics that really didn't help us become better teachers

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we're all frustrated and tired and angry because we have things that would rather be doing that we were more important and,

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i use to be frustrated as well and then one day i thought to myself wait a minute.

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I'm somebody who instruct children if nothing else i can sit through this lesson i can learn from it,

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how not to engage my students

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i can't pay attention to what i should not do because its disengage in the audience here i forgot it'll cause my students to engaged and i began to take away from these bad your a sissy nuggets let me be a better

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teacher,

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i re framed the frustration the motion in the problem in the situation and i found something from it that i can take away that actually was

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pause the depth and noticed that i turned into an action i did something i learned something from it and i put that action in the practice.

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That's why they re framing is one of those tools that can be at keith actually feeling forward see the truth is that,

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when we make mistakes when we have problems when we have challenges where things go wrong

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often it's out of those things that come my opportunities for six s it's why i talk all the time about running experiments in trying things out because as you run these experiments as you try then out,

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that's what allows you to begin to succeed.

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Sorry frame becomes a key part of the process of being able to allow yourself to make mistakes.

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I have problems have these challenges that later lead to success.

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So what problems do you have today and how can you refrain them so that you can take a positive action and began to fail forward thanks for listening.

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Yo on.

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Thanks so much for listening to the inspired stewardship.

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In today's episode, I talk with you about:

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    What the problem really is when you have a problem...
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    The difference between positive thinking and re-framing problems...
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    Why re-framing is a key to failing forward...
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    and more.....

If a problem can't be solved within the frame it was conceived, the solution lies in reframing the problem. ― Brian McGreevy

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Episode 498: Stop Your Whining…

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Join us today for an episode about the waste that is whining...

Today's episode is focused on the difference between venting and whining...

In today’s episode about investing in yourself by stewarding your time, I talk with you about the difference between whining and venting.  I also share why whining is a huge waste of time and tends to lead you down the road of creating the three p's.  I also share why whining leads to worry and stress not success.

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Thanks for joining me on episode four 98 of the inspired stewardship podcast.

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Hey there i'm cassidy cash the host of that shakespeare life if you like to impact the world monday like shakespeare when we do that is listening to this its inspired stewardship podcast with my friend scott may roam.

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Burns energy consumption it traps you like quick sand but it doesn't actually do anything.

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This begins to lead this stress.

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Biggest delete the feeling that trapped hopeless a create a victim mindset by definition whining gets you stop.

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Welcome and thank you for joining us in the inspired stewardship.

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If you truly desire to become the person who god wants you to be something you must learn to use time your talent and your treasures for your true calling.

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Any inspired stewardship podcast learn to invest in yourself invest in others and develop your influence you.

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Episode about investing in yourself by stuart your time i talk with you about the difference between wyoming and venting whining is a huge waste of time,

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and white wine and leads to worry and stress not six s.

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Can we talk about stuart and your time would be great if you can support this podcast and do it without just taking too long turn the key,

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So few years ago i was part of the leadership team and a corporation and i had,

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oh adults and people that reported directly to me and then each of those words directors that had a dozen or so people reporting to them.

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M within the company i was in a position where oftentimes people would come with problems and one of the things that i discovered,

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after a few years if there's a real difference between people that came in and and we're whining and people that came in and just needed to vent,

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you are the truth is for some of us with our personality and other things we need to sit down with other people and unload our problems we need that moment.

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Just talk about it out loud with somebody not necessarily to have them provide a solution not necessarily to have them give me advice but just to have them

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listen,

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stop just the male female thing i think sometimes there are some differences in how they handle things like this but i've seen both men and women,

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over the years to come and and need that time to just sit down and sometimes people process information by talking through that information and submit talking out loud with someone else they process the emotions,

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a process that the process the information and oftentimes at the end of the day say thank you so much for listening i got the answer they walk out of the room even though you said almost nothing the entire conversation.

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There's also folks that come and do something different you got the action seems to be the same i mean they do start talking about the problem.

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Fairly quickly becomes clearer the third not actually venting they're not venting instead they're whining.

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So i actually use to tell folks your allowed to vent you're not allowed to wine and then i had to find it for them.

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So curious my definition maybe you have one as well if you do i'd love for you to share it with me because i've heard a lot of different definitions of the difference between whining and venting and i'm always curious about how different people c,

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for me.

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The q the information that helps me see that was sent when u set down and you talk about the problem you talk about the emotional you talked about what was going on,

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one time and then you moved on,

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begin to work and brainstorm and look for a solution you ask for advice you propose this solution yourself up and tried something,

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where was something that was completely out of your control you left it to the side u you put it down and walked away from that metaphorical speaking.

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Wind and on the other hand was repeating the problem you are going back over and over again you begin to dwell on the emotion,

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you begin to circle back and talk about it again after you finish describing at once.

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What others trying to move you forward in touch beginning to think about a solution you refuse to go there and circle back to the beginning and begin talking through the problem again.

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You begin to make everything about the problem instead of being able to move past it and look forward.

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Whining begins that circular spiral that often traps,

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can i see more whining about things that you have no control over but ive also seen people wine about things that they have complete control of control over,

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because i get stuck in that cycle.

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Let's see that's the problem why is a huge waste of your time yo it's like sitting in a rocking chair rocking back and forth hoping that you'll be out across the room.

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Yeah you might be able to get them eventually but it's actually gonna be really slow not very official didn't make a lot of marks on the floor.

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It's not the way to do it whining just waste time and waste of motion energy and trapped in a cycle,

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you remember we talked before about the three pieces permanent pervasive and personal,

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why nintendo stock lead you down the path of making the stains whatever your problem is into one of those three piece perhaps all three and it just waste time and emotional energy.

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Whining leads to worry,

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remember where we talked about before where is the least of fish thing on the planet because at the end of the day worry does nothing.

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Hey burns energy burn some motion it's traps you,

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like quicksand but it doesn't actually do anything this begins to lead this stress.

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Begin silly to the feeling that trapped hopeless it creates a victim mindset by definition whitening gets you stop.

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Venting sometimes can help get you i'm stuck,

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whining leads to these bad things not to success and get it i want to be clear because a lot of people here that's nice that you're saying i should never talk about my problems that's not what i'm saying.

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Would you should never why about your problems instead it's fine to seek advice it's fine to seek counsel is find the work with a counselor or a pastor friend,

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it's even ok to vent and just unload things occasionally,

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i do suggest if you're renting to someone you don't want their input you don't want their advice you don't wanna solution proposed that you like to know what front that you just want them to listen.

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Listen to yourself to think about what you're saying and make sure you don't begin to cycle back and repeat the exact same things that you said before.

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Because you no longer feel thing and your whining and again that's the trap.

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So be careful and i understand the difference between venting and whining and if you find yourself wyoming just stop your whining.

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Thanks for listening.

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Join us today for an episode about the power of review to transform our minds...

Today's episode is focused on Romans 12:2 and how transformation of our minds can come from our review.

In today’s spiritual foundation episode about investing in yourself, I talk with you about Romans 12:2 and how this transformation requires active processes.  I share why reviewing your life is part of transforming your mind.  I also talk with you about why this is a key to a spiritual life.

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[0:00] Thanks for joining me on episode four ninety seven of the inspired stewardship podcast.

I'm Daryl Lyons author of "Eighteen to Eighty" I challenge you to invest in yourself and others develop your influence and impact the world by using your time your talent and your treasures,

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[0:42] So i call you again as we do this annual review process is beginning to look at how things have gone in twenty nineteen me get to think about moving forward to twenty twenty.

Actually take this to heart and treatments when your life by the renewing of your mind.

[1:03] Welcome and thank you for joining us in the inspired stewardship.

[1:08] If you truly desire to become the person who god wants you to be can you must learn to use your time your talent and your treasures for your call.

Any inspired stewardship podcast learn to invest in yourself invest in others and develop your influence so you.

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[1:36] It's spiritual foundation episode about investing in yourself i talk with you about romans chapter twelve verses to.

Why reviewing your life is part of transforming your mind and why this is a key,

really developing your spiritual life.

Romans 12 to use a passage that i come back to time and time again both when i'm working with others as a client as well as myself it's one of a handful of passages that i look at as key for my own life.

Robin spell to says do not conform to the pattern of this world but be transformed by the renewing of your mind then you will be able to test and approve what god's will is his good pleasing and perfect will.

This idea of transforming your mind renewing your mind something that speaks to me

i'm sorry that is very focused on the mind and sometimes it

gets in the way of dealing with things like my faith and i love the fact of this passage

allows you to connect the two that it's by renewing your mind that you are transformed away from the pattern of this world.

[2:55] Are you able to determine the will of god,

are you able to hear the voice of god whatever you go through this hard work of transforming and renewing of your mind,

yesterday we talked about doing an annual review but i talked about how i do this constant state of reviewing all different levels daily weekly monthly quarterly and annually.

And one of the things i talked about it is

this idea of what i do while i struggle within in the third question was what things am great full for,

see i do this daily reflection of gratitude that i do this weekly and monthly and quarterly and annually

and i tried to constantly reflecting refund how my mind thinks about the things that are happening to me.

I gotta talk a little bit in the rest of this week about some other examples of deaths but this idea of reviewing your life.

Can be part of renewing your mind

c more past seven we simply go through life and we let it happened to us and we don't actually taken,

roll looking back and checking on what's happening in making sure that things are in alignment and more going in the direction we want to go

they're not really.

[4:21] Transforming our cells will not really renewing our minds and our mind is just going through the same pattern time and time again day after day.

[4:31] And that's really not what this is talking about this is challenging us to be an active participant in our life,

bring ourselves into alignment with what god wants us to do that romans 12 who is talking about at least to me

end that that action that idea of constantly reviewing and reflecting on using and planning and executing of doing it time after time after time is the key

tell me to having a life of gratitude to having a life where you really focus on others to having a life will you take the spiritual center

bring yourself more into alignment with what god is calling us to do.

[5:15] That's what i feel like reviewing your life and reviewing it over and over again.

He's part of developing a spiritual mindset without this active process if you just set back and let life happen to you,

never really able to move your center to where you become more in alignment with what god wants us to do not because that,

is it something that god can do to us or for us but it's because.

God wants a relationship with us he wants us to be an active participant in this process any fear of passive participant.

If you never actively paying attention to what you're doing and how it affects things that is really hard to renew your mind and transform yourself.

[6:07] So i call you again as you do this annual review process as you begin to look at how things have gone in two thousand nineteen and begin to think about moving forward into twenty twenty,

actually take this to heart and transform your life by the renewing of your mind thanks for listening.

Yo are thanks so much for listening to the inspired stewardship podcast.

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Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is-his good, pleasing and perfect will. - Romans 12: 2

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